When a daughter enters adolescence, she often has a misunderstanding with her parents. It seems to them that the "baby" is still very young and still has to play with dolls. But contrary to the expectations of adults, she does piercings, dyes her hair in an eerie color, comes home late and is not going to give an account of her adventures. Often times, these situations become dead ends for both sides.
It is necessary
- - respect for the personality of the daughter;
- - acceptance of her new features of behavior;
- - confidential conversations on equal terms
Instructions
Step 1
Calm down and soberly, without emotion, analyze the situation. Perhaps you just didn't notice when your "baby" became a girl. Understand that deep down, all parents are a little selfish and do not want to accept the truth that their daughter already has the right to privacy. And if this life is very different from your ideas about the "normal" life of a teenage girl, you do not need to impose your worldview on her.
Step 2
Be condescending to current teen fashion trends. Do not forget that each subsequent generation differs in some way from the previous one. Take it easy on the needs of your growing daughter, she is eager to realize her sexuality, and this is quite normal.
Step 3
To improve relations with your daughter, you should not read her constant moralizing and completely control her life. If you bring a trusting atmosphere back into your relationship, your daughter will not try to do everything in spite of everything.
Step 4
Consider the fact that before the first sexual experience girls received at 19-20 years old, now - at 14-15. You need to come to terms with this and, if possible, not scold, but warn your daughter about the possible consequences. The same goes for experiments with alcohol and nicotine. Do not take everything too tragically, gradually this period will surely pass, and your daughter will again become a "normal" person.
Step 5
Try to talk to your daughter, challenge her to a frank conversation. At the same time, you do not need to take an authoritarian position; on the contrary, be on an equal footing with it. Ask what worries your child, how her relationships with the boys, with her friends, how are things at school, etc. Your questions should not be interrogation with passion, but participation, a manifestation of love, care and attention, because despite all her sins, remember that this is your daughter.
Step 6
Strive so that such conversations with the child are not random, single, but would be frequent, almost daily and bring only positive emotions to both parties. Start to respect your child, whatever he may be, love him not only for A's and exemplary behavior, show sincere care and attention to your daughter, and she will definitely repay you in kind.
