The problems of fathers and children may be different, but most often it is the parents who raise their sons and daughters, proving their exceptional rightness and authority. But what if we turn the situation around and assign pedagogical responsibilities to the child … Interesting? Let's try.
Instructions
Step 1
The very first thing you need to understand as a child is that parents are very vulnerable and vulnerable people. They can be offended by any of your rash words, rudeness and grin. Therefore, try to avoid such manifestations, be careful with them.
Step 2
As you know, children in a sense are a reflection of their parents, but parents do the same in a mirror, unconsciously copying the actions of their child. Therefore, if you want to cultivate patience, mutual respect, trust and honesty in your loved ones, do the same yourself: be patient and respectful to them, trust and remain honest in any situation.
Step 3
Stop proving anything to your parent, defending your rights and freedoms for everything you can. For example, you want to go to a friend, but your mother forbids you for one reason or another. You should not shout that this is your life, and you have the right to dispose of it. In response, you will be faced with either the same oppressive reaction, or with tears.
Step 4
Instead of rolling scenes, learn to talk. Any misunderstanding can be resolved with an open and calm conversation, which will not only lead to a positive outcome, but also give you both an invaluable lesson for the future. Parents will see you as an adult and wise person and will unconsciously begin to behave the same way.
Step 5
Learn to step into your parents' shoes. When you succeed in doing this, you will understand that not only do you have global unsolvable problems, but others also have them. Over time, your loved ones, feeling support and understanding, will be able to see the world through your eyes, learn to respect you and listen.
Step 6
Do not be afraid to defend your position and your opinion. But the sense-forming part is such that it is not always necessary to do this precisely at crisis and turning points, when a different reaction cannot be avoided. It would be more correct to gradually announce your views on life, weaving these little lessons for parents into everyday activities.
Step 7
And the main idea is that you need to learn together. To have the right to teach someone, you need to be a sufficiently mature and developed personality yourself. In short, when raising your parents, do not forget to educate yourself.
