You catch yourself constantly thinking about someone. You feel that whatever you are doing, you cannot stop thinking about it. You feel the need for his presence every second. You need his approval or censure. Perhaps you broke up with someone, but you continue to write to him, call him, constantly update his pages on social networks. Agree, this is madness and it needs to be stopped somehow.
It is necessary
In some cases, professional help
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, you will have to admit that you are dependent on someone, that you are simply obsessed with him. If you tell yourself it's okay to be so dependent on someone, you won't be able to change anything in your life. Look at your behavior - one of the main signs of any addiction is that you do something over and over again, knowing that after that you will only feel worse. Make a list of the positive emotions and experiences that you get from the thoughts or actions of this person. Now make a list of the negative ones. Which one is longer?
Step 2
Do you call your addiction love? Believe it isn't. Love inspires and delights us, while addiction is overwhelming and devastating. Love allows us to love a person with all their imperfections, while addiction makes you think you have met perfection. Love allows your relationship to develop and strengthen, while your addiction makes the person feel trapped, obligated, and rejected.
Step 3
Try to understand what the person you are obsessed with represents to you. We often use other people as a substitute for something that we ourselves want to get out of life. For example, if you feel like you are having a hard time getting through the changes in your life, you might get carried away by someone who makes any changes easy. If you are worried about your career, you may become dependent on a successful, confident person. Understand why this person is so attractive to you and you can think about the fact that there are other ways to get what you want.
Step 4
Express your emotions. Write a treatise on your addiction. Write down all feelings and emotions in detail. Write with a pen or pencil on a plain sheet of paper. When finished, burn this sheet. There is a bit of shamanism in this method, but oddly enough it works. Imagine that along with the leaf, your problem also turns to ash.
Step 5
Control your thoughts. It seems to you that this is impossible, but in fact you just haven't tried it. As soon as you start thinking about this person again, stop yourself. Say to yourself, like Scarlett O * Hara, "I'll think about it later," and immediately look for something for yourself that can take up your time and thoughts.
