The very painful topic of parting with a loved one requires a tactful approach, great inner strength and time. Letting go of a person is catastrophically difficult, especially if feelings remain. But you need to learn this in order to live on and move forward, already without him.
Instructions
Step 1
First, you need to accept the fact that you no longer have a future with this person, and in order to continue living, you need to let him go. Perhaps, the awareness of this situation is the most difficult in the whole process, since often people simply do not believe in what is happening, cherish hopes and do not want to let the person go, and this can last for years. If you cannot accept the care of a loved one on your own, be sure to contact a competent psychotherapist.
Step 2
There is a technique for returning that positive energy of love and affection that you once endowed with your other half. The essence of the work is multiple visualization. Imagine how the energy in the form of a golden ray, sun or hearts returns from it to you in a stream.
The fact is that on a psychological level, you invested a lot in your partner, and when he left, then you were left with nothing. This is where attachment is manifested. Break the psychological addiction by reclaiming your own. After a while, it will become easier for you, and you will again feel your fullness.
Step 3
Keep yourself busy. At first, you will have to force yourself, classes will take place in an unconscious automatic mode, and your thoughts will be occupied by the image of a leaving person. But continue to do, even if everything falls out of hand - do not be discouraged, do it.
Step 4
When, thanks to the practice of returning your energy, the vitality in you increases, begin to love yourself. Take care of your appearance, education, hobbies. Sad thoughts about a departed person will not stop visiting you, although they will acquire a lighter color. Sublimate in creativity, paying tribute to the beauty that was in your relationship. By this, you also release the person.
Step 5
Reduce the number of situations and people that remind you of your ex. Remove it from all social networks and temporarily stop meeting your mutual friends. Do not be interested in this person's life, but focus on yourself - this is your most important task.
Step 6
Over time, your openness will return to you and, although the wound will be fresh, a new person may appear on your way. Accept it, because there are no meetings without parting. Do not close yourself in front of new people, perhaps they were given to you for something important. As a rule, a person who has experienced a difficult breakup becomes wiser and stronger, which means that the chance to build a correct and lasting relationship with a new person is much higher.
