Very often, parents, trying to make life easier for themselves and their child, make many concessions and indulgences. This can only prevent the child from becoming him as a person in the future. To bring up a successful and independent person in a child, do not ignore the following wishes.
You need to let your child take risks. This is by no means the unthinkable, uncontrollable risk of Daredevil. But in childhood, a child needs to fall, and fight, and quarrel with a friend, and experience experiences. All this is important for the formation of a personality without psychological deviations against the background of the development of any phobias.
It is necessary to teach the child to independently solve their problems, some tasks, undertakings and not rush instantly, at the first call, to carry them out instead of him. Let the baby first try to act on his own, and only in case of emergency can you help him. Thus, the ability is formed in him to correct his mistakes and to be responsible for his actions himself, and not to hope that someone will correct them for him. After all, this will not happen in the future.
Don't over-praise your child. Yes, many will think that this will build self-confidence in him. But in adulthood, he may face the so-called "chopping off the wings" and will either think that everyone else underestimates him, or his self-esteem and self-esteem will plummet, which is fraught with depression.
Do not pamper children with excessive rewards for any actions (for example, cleaning done, excellent performance at school, etc.). This form of material relations forms in children a lack of moral motivation to perform any worthy deeds.
It is necessary to share stories about your mistakes with children. This will help them develop their own plan for getting out of unpleasant situations that may happen to them.
It is necessary to give the child freedom to the extent appropriate to the child's age. Often, the child's intelligence and overdevelopment overshadow his lack of independence, and parents mistakenly believe that the child is already ready to embark on an independent path. Or, on the contrary, they too restrain his independence. It is best to observe and focus on the behavior of the child's peers and their parents.
It is important to remember that all life principles and responsibilities are initially formed by the family. It is necessary to analyze your actions and behave in such a way that the child develops a subsequent model of behavior and responsibility both in the family and as an independent person.
Never forget, we ourselves are responsible for the kind of person our child becomes. And first of all, be aware of the actions he has committed.
