You are already an accomplished mother, but suddenly you find out that you are pregnant again. Joy overwhelms you, but doubts arise - how the grown-up children will behave, whether they will be jealous of the little one. And then you feel that the children are not at all happy about your rounded tummy.
At a time when an already established mother finds out that she is pregnant again, her thoughts most often revolve not around the child who is in the womb, but around those who will now become elders. How will they perceive the baby? Will they not be jealous? How can we prepare them for such a change? But what if the children are not happy about your pregnancy?
How to behave during pregnancy?
It is necessary to prepare them in advance for such changes already from the beginning of pregnancy. If it turns out that with the birth of a new family member, changes will occur in the life of your children, then it is better that this should pass long before the baby is born. Will the children have to move to another room or will they need to start sleeping in their own bed? It is very important that they do not think that these two events - changes in their life and the upcoming birth of a baby - are interconnected.
During your pregnancy, you need to tell your children that they will soon have a sister or brother. Moreover, it is not bad to say in this way: "you will have a sister," and not "I will have a baby, and he will be for you …". All children are self-centered by nature. They perceive the world around them through themselves, and for them it is natural.
In the event that pregnancy brings you inconvenience, you do not need to share these children. It would be more correct to say: “I cannot lift you on the arms, because my back hurts” than: “I have a little lyalek in my stomach, so I cannot lift you”. This is necessary because in this case, the unborn child will be to blame for the fact that you do not take older children in your arms. It is also worth telling the older children how they were born themselves, how happy they were in the family, what gifts they were given.
Making friends with children is not difficult
You should not blame all the worries about children on your husband, grandmothers, grandfathers and nannies. After all, it is not very difficult to read a fairy tale to children at night, cover them with a blanket, hug. During the day, go for a walk together, have fun. This will be useful to you yourself. It is important not to lose emotional connection with the kids, they especially feel this. The main task of parents is to reassure older children that nothing will change in their world. It is important to talk to children, listen to their experiences and concerns. Initially, you need to tell the children how you will need their help and how exactly they can provide it to you. For example, older children will have the responsibility to help you bathe your baby - bring a towel, toys, etc.
Building harmonious relationships between children is a difficult but solvable task. One has only to devote time and energy to this, because your children will live their whole lives together and together.
