Building a relationship with a jealous man is like sitting on a volcano: it is not known when the eruption will begin.
Don't believe jealousy is love. Love is a bright, creative feeling, and jealousy is destructive and dangerous. Mistrust, prohibitions, insults, grievances and even physical violence are all consequences of unbridled male jealousy. Is there a way to pacify home Othello and live a quiet life?
Revealing the true reasons
Your steps to prevent jealousy attacks will depend on the reasons your man is jealous of. The most common are the following:
- Low self-esteem of a man and, as a result, self-doubt.
- Psychological trauma that he received in the past.
- A man is jealous if he has cheated himself or admits thoughts of cheating, as a result, he begins to ascribe his thoughts and feelings to his partner.
How to calm a jealous person?
To begin with, it is worth understanding that it will no longer be possible to re-educate an adult man. But if you choose the right strategy of behavior, you can soften the manifestations of his jealousy.
Eliminate delays at work, rash statements such as: "We have a new employee, so cute", part with a mini and a frank neckline - peace in the family is more important.
If the reason for your man's jealousy is low self-esteem and fear of losing you, then you will have to make him believe in himself. To do this, you need to make it a rule to praise him for any little things: for fixing the tap, taking out the trash, helping his son with his lessons, surprised you in bed, etc. Convince him that for you he is the best man in the world, and that no woman in her right mind will leave such a thing.
Often, jealous people cheat themselves due to a lack of information about a loved one. Call him often and tell him what you are doing, how you have your lunch break, etc. He will not have to speculate, and therefore be jealous.
For a jealous person, the logic is this: if you justify yourself, you are guilty. Use the strategy "the best defense is attack!" Does he need an explanation? Ask a counter question: "Do you doubt my feelings?" Then it is worth pouting and portraying a strong resentment. Let him apologize!
Present your husband with a spinning rod, metal detector or other male "toy". Having occupied the thoughts of your beloved with a new hobby, you will get rid of his overprotection and jealous suspicions, which are most often born in an idle head.
