Having met a loved one in their life, people dream of the flame of love burning forever. But, unfortunately, most lovers fail to maintain fiery feelings. And over time, a woman and a man who once loved each other become strangers to each other.
One of the common reasons for the disappearance of love is the desire of one or both lovers to improve everything, including the character and habits of an already adult partner, without realizing that this is completely meaningless. Any attempt to change the main character traits of a partner constitutes moral violence against the person. Naturally, this causes an aggressive rebuff and resistance, and there can be no talk of any positive development of relations.
In the desire to overcome the bad habits of their second half, people often resist quite acceptable qualities. A quarrel can even break out because, for example, one is slower than the other, while the other is reading at the dinner table, etc. Frequent nagging about these insignificant things causes irritation on both sides that can turn into hatred.
Everything will be different if the beloved immediately understand that by educating each other, they are killing love. In itself, the desire to reeducate a partner means that he is not perceived as a worthy and unique person.
However, attempts to reeducate a partner are not the only reason for the disappearance of love. It should be noted that the outcome of further relationships largely depends on what is sown in the first hours of acquaintance. Often, in an effort to please, a partner embellishes his portrait, begins to play a role, sometimes even hiding his true face. As a result, a person falls in love with the created image.
When the relationship gets serious, all the roles created become a serious problem. A partner in love with the image of his other half, when faced with his true face, may be disappointed. He will begin to understand that the next person is not the one to whom there was previously an attraction, and he feels deceived. So there is no trace of sincere feelings.
Another enemy of love is boredom in a relationship, which is initially fueled by interest in a partner and a feeling of novelty. Every meeting with a loved one is eagerly awaited, and every moment of communication is greatly appreciated. Over time, everything becomes familiar, develops according to standard rules, partners become bored. Only independent creativity will help to warm up interest in each other. It is necessary to move away from stereotypes and create an individual scenario of relationships.
Love can destroy the inability to sort things out. Negative emotions invariably accompany the human essence, and it is impossible to constantly experience only delight in relation to one's neighbor. Irritation from the reckless and hostile actions of the beloved accumulates and pours into a conflict. One quarrel replaces another, and hostility takes the place of love.
It is important here not to accumulate hostility, but also not to throw it out on a partner at once, without choosing expressions. You need to calm down, master your anger and soberly remove the reason for resentment. It is important to calmly discuss emerging issues with loved ones and seek a compromise, come to an agreement.
