It is always difficult to forgive, especially when it comes to such a grave sin as treason. Because of this, tragedies happen: it happens that people who were created for each other disperse forever only because one could not forgive another for betrayal. But here, of course, the question arises: is it necessary to forgive at all, since she is already looking to the left?
Instructions
Step 1
Do not communicate with the girl for a while, although if you have already decided to return everything after the betrayal, then most likely this period of mutual silence has already passed. During this period (determine its duration yourself, or rather, your heart itself will tell you how long you need to be silent), you can think over the state of affairs, look deep into yourself, understand what you really need. How many pairs - so many situations, and yours is just as unique. You will be able to make sure that the girl's betrayal did not kill your love for her - or, conversely, that you no longer have any feelings for her.
Step 2
Never rush things. She is to blame, not you, and in any case, it is she who should come to you herself. If you start to act on your own, return her, love her as before, without showing her how much pain she has caused you, then she will understand that she can continue to change. You need to punish her, but do not take the word "punishment" too literally: not harsh measures, but ignoring on your part, your silence will be a real punishment for her if she really loves you and only stumbled. When you see her repentance, it will be much easier for you to forgive her.
Step 3
When anger, resentment, despair have already passed, when you can look at what happened without pain, you can establish contact with the girl. Just talk to her as with a friend - after all, if love has passed, then why not remain the old friendship? Remember how it all began, forget for a while what happened next. If you have been together for some time, then you probably have many common interests, common good memories, trips. If you really want to forgive the girl, think about that. Do not try to immediately revive the past respect and past love (maybe love has remained, but it has probably acquired some new shade), be old friends.
Step 4
Now you need to decide for yourself: exactly how you want to forgive your soul mate. Do you want her to be with you again as your beloved, or is friendship enough for you? It's no secret that love is a much more vulnerable feeling than friendly affection. If you understand that the betrayal was for love, that is, your girl, not daring to break off relations with you, loves another, then wouldn't it be better to let her go in peace and forgive just as a person? Whether you remain friends or separate forever - it depends only on the two of you. If you want to return it to yourself, then you have to work much more carefully on your feelings.
Step 5
If you decide to forgive your girlfriend after she cheated on you, think about how you behave and how you feel about her. Treason does not arise from scratch, everything in the world has its causes and consequences. A girl who loves you tenderly will not crawl into bed with another person. Therefore, carefully analyze the situation from different angles, taking into account the peculiarities of your character and the character of the girl. Treason (if she really was, maybe they just slander the girl) is an alarming sign, and both partners need to think about it here.
