Problems in marriage sometimes begin from the very beginning of life together: quarrels, constant showdowns … However, it so happens that everything is fine, the family is idyllic. And suddenly … the husband goes to his friend. What to do? Panic, depression? Things may not be so scary. The main thing is to forgive and understand yourself.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, you need to ask yourself questions:
- what does this man mean to you, abstracting from the fact that he is your husband;
- what feelings do you have in relation to your husband: love or just affection?
- could you continue to live without your husband?
Step 2
The main thing that you need to understand here is that only you are guilty of what happened. Because, firstly, if the husband did not want, he would not leave, that is, there was something in you that allowed him to leave. Perhaps this is a claim to him on your part, not enough love. Secondly, it is necessary to understand that the husband made such decisions from the totality of his internal factors, which told him that he needed to change everything, to start a new life. And believe me, it doesn't make him any better. Thirdly, you cannot change your husband, but only change yourself so that this person wants to return to you.
Step 3
It is quite possible that there was a very strong conflict and misunderstanding between you, which provoked the departure, that is, in this case, the act on the part of the husband was committed in revenge for something. In this case, you need to understand the reasons for the conflict, evaluate, first of all, your own behavior, and then the behavior of the parties. It is important in this case to look at the situation from the side of another person, as if it were you yourself. This is a very good psychological trick. Often after that, everything falls into place, because you yourself feel what exactly prompted him to make such a decision.
Step 4
In this situation, do not blame your friend, since in this case she is only as a connecting link, that is, on the contrary, a disconnecting link, which was the reason for parting with her husband. Understand that if your husband didn’t want to leave, he wouldn’t leave. That is, he had reasons for that. And these reasons must be sought in oneself.
