In many Russian families, women are regularly subjected to violence. According to statistics, about nine thousand women per year during family quarrels. They were all someone's mothers, sisters, grandmothers … In connection with such considerable numbers, a number of questions arise in order to prevent or reduce the number of deaths after family scandals. To do this, you need to recognize in time a potential tyrant in your beloved husband.
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According to psychologists, rarely does a man prone to aggression show it immediately. Everything happens unexpectedly. At first, he begins to criticize without reason the appearance of his woman, the books she reads, her favorite films and much more that has to do with her lifestyle. After that, he makes claims, prohibits the woman from communicating with her friends, relatives. “Don't go there, don't look here” - this becomes the norm for the husband, he demands to give up some habits, tries to make the woman completely home, limiting her personal freedom. The next stage is already physical violence, constant or episodic, but it is inevitable. Therefore, it is important to pay attention to all the threatening moments before it comes to assault. And many women mistakenly perceive such nuances as a manifestation of care, concern for health. If the husband calls every half hour, the woman thinks that he is just worried, jealous.
But it is important for a woman to understand that such behavior should never be justified, this is not a manifestation of care and attention, but an attempt to subordinate the wife to her will. This is already psychological violence.
In addition to physical violence, moral violence is also possible, which can manifest itself in different forms. The husband begins to emphasize that the material side of the family rests entirely on his shoulders, takes the budget into his own hands, as a result, the wife is deprived of even the most necessary funds. Under the plausible pretext that the house needs a mistress, the tyrant man forbids the woman to work. The figure of his wife, culinary ability, girlfriend and much more falls under his criticism. Humiliation and insults are constantly heard from him. Then the woman is simply afraid of her husband, waiting for him to return home in fear, does not know what reaction to expect to any of her words or actions.
It is often believed among women that it is possible to suppress the will only with a “gray mouse”, insecure. But this is a deep misconception. No one is immune from domestic tyranny. Powerful business women, confident, beautiful, educated women are subjected to domestic violence. A tyrant husband can find justice on them. There are many illustrative examples among famous Russian pop singers, for example, Jasmine, Valeria. And it is not known how many singers and actresses suffer secretly from the bullying of their husbands.
If a man has a tendency to domestic violence, then they will certainly manifest themselves someday, regardless of the prevailing circumstances. It is difficult to completely prevent tyranny in the family, but you can try to stop it so as not to bring the situation to the most critical moment. A woman, even if she is able to recognize a tyrant in her faithful, will not be able to constantly resist. Having fulfilled one demand of her husband, he will find other methods of influencing her.
The biggest problem of women is that they sincerely believe that a man can reform, change his mind, believe in his magic healing, therefore, after another scandal, they forgive. Few wife can resist when her husband, who offended her yesterday, is kneeling today with tears in his eyes, swearing in eternal love, holding out a bouquet of flowers. At this moment, the family is restored, for a certain period it becomes friendly, almost exemplary. For the husband and wife, one might say, a honeymoon. But then the tyrant husband again beats the woman, humiliates. And again he repents and promises that it was the last time. The woman recalls how good it was in the moments of the truce, hopes that that time was really the last … Thus, she drives herself into a trap that may last for an unknown amount of time.