According to the laws of memory, many people more easily remember happy times, good luck, and positive mood. And disappointment and failure are forgotten faster. Over time, more good things are really remembered than bad ones. This is a kind of psychological defense. It can also be used deliberately.
Instructions
Step 1
In order to displace unpleasant thoughts and memories of the former from memory, you need to try to fill your life with new impressions, emotions, and meetings to the maximum.
Step 2
Plan your time so that you have as little time as possible for self-digging, loneliness, memories and solitude. Go to the water park and slide down all the steep water slides. Take training courses for jumping and jump with a parachute. Sign up for a car driving course.
Step 3
Choose an activity that you would like to devote all your time to. In other words, find yourself a hobby, passion. The main thing is that the new hobby is not "home". It is necessary to find friends with the same interests. Perhaps it will be a kind of workshop, which teaches woodcarving, knitting, decorative creativity. Or dance lessons. Or a visit to the pool. Get in the habit of attending your chosen club at least once a week.
Step 4
Scientists have proven that praying for offenders allows resentful people to cope with resentment and anger faster. Take note of this. And go to the temple. Pray for your ex-husband / boyfriend / fiance. Order a magpie for health. Communion.
Step 5
Watch your thoughts carefully. As soon as an unpleasant moment of parting, the cause of the resentment, some other memory pops up in the memory, immediately "turn on" the intentional picture - "repression". This picture should be funny, ridiculous, bright. For example, start imagining elephants dancing ballet or penguins jumping on the subway.
Step 6
Be sure to do a general cleaning in the house. Collect in a separate box those things that remind you of your ex. If you don't want to part with these things, then for now just put them right in the box in the pantry. If things are not a shame, pass them on to others, for example, through online sales.
Step 7
If there are places that are inextricably linked in your memories with your ex, you don't need to avoid them. We must try to displace these associations from memory with the help of new bright events. For example, you associate the nearest park only with walking through it in the arms of a once loved one, and, as a result, you are very upset. To supplant unpleasant memories, buy two balloons inflated with helium, tie one to each ear, and take a walk in the park. And release shyness, and help change memories.
Step 8
And most importantly, do not forget to repeat to yourself every day that everything is for the best.
