Marriage usually turns out to be successful if the choice of a life partner is approached thoroughly and seriously. And in order not to make mistakes, try to learn as much as possible about the man before the marriage.
Instructions
Step 1
Listen carefully to your man and draw logical conclusions. Representatives of the stronger sex willingly talk about their achievements and victories, less willingly - about their shortcomings. But with a certain perseverance, you can certainly bring your loved one to a frank conversation. Naturally, your conversation should not be like an interrogation. Lead to the desired topic carefully and do not strive to learn everything at once. If your chosen one very persistently avoids talking on a certain topic, this should alert you. However, do not jump to conclusions - perhaps the reason for this is somewhere deeper than you think. For example, your man avoids talking about young children. You might conclude that he doesn't like them. But it may turn out that in childhood he lost his little brother or sister, and all the children cause sad memories in him.
Step 2
Learn about your points of contact. Shared hobbies and hobbies bring people together very effectively, especially after falling in love has subsided and the relationship becomes more peaceful. In addition to hobbies, you must have common values. If you were raised and raised in different walks of life, it will be difficult to find common values. There is a good criterion for choosing a partner: if you read the same books as a child, you will surely find a common language. Over time, people with different mentality will become uninteresting to talk, they will become constantly irritated, etc. At the same time, separately, these women and men can be very good, but completely inappropriate people for each other.
Step 3
Pay attention not only to what the man says, but also to what he does. Distinguish idle talk from serious intentions. If your chosen one only talks about what he wants to achieve and does nothing, so will it be in your family life. You will have to either constantly push him, or put up with the lack of finances and life benefits. As for the actions, they can also differ. If your future spouse often gives you flowers, takes you to a cafe, etc. Is just a way to please you. But if he is looking for an option to exchange his living space for a larger one so that you can live together and raise children, achieves a higher-paid position so that you can not work, treats your religious principles with understanding - these actions speak of his seriousness, maturity and strong feelings …
Step 4
Listen to your heart. If it is silent, it is unlikely that this man is intended for you. Real feelings are the key to a happy and long family life.
