A woman who finds herself in a situation where a man raises his hand to her often does not know what to do. What should be done in this case, and should such behavior be forgiven?
Instructions
Step 1
If your husband began to sort things out, raising his hand to you, first of all ask yourself the question: why do you need such a man. After all, if this happened once, then in the future such cases will turn into a common occurrence. But you married a loving and gentle person.
Step 2
Do not try to find an excuse for his actions. Even if he now has troubles at work or health problems, or other reasons. Raising his hand on you, he shows his weakness, and maybe even mental imbalance. Why is such a husband and such a father of a family needed?
Step 3
Try to make a plan for your next steps. Of course, if there is an opportunity to pack your bags and leave the area or city, this is a good way out. But don't jump to conclusions. Think about whether you can find decent housing for children and decent work there. Maybe you shouldn't run to your mom right away. If you hold a good position and have a good salary, perhaps the best option would be to move to a rented apartment for now, so as not to lose space and not disrupt the children from school.
Step 4
After the beating, be sure to go to the clinic and record the beatings. The certificate will be a supporting document for the fight with her husband.
Step 5
File for divorce and child support immediately. While the case is being decided in court, discuss with your husband (preferably with witnesses) the issue of dividing the apartment and property.
Step 6
If at the moment you do not have a stable income, and your husband continues to bully, take the child and go to a center for helping women suffering from domestic violence. Now such centers are open in almost every, even a small town. There you can live for a while, get away from stress, get qualified help from a lawyer and a psychologist. During this time, you will be able to arrange a child in a kindergarten, and find a job yourself.
Step 7
Remember: if a man raised his hand to you once, he will definitely repeat it again. Therefore, do not forgive him and do not convince yourself that this will not happen again. You don't need such a husband, and children don't need such a father. Do not beat yourself up for depriving them of a full-fledged family. Looking at such abnormal relationships, children will not be able to be happy. Respect yourself and leave such a man.
