The first kiss is a tremulous moment that both people who sympathize with each other are looking forward to. At the same time, it can be postponed indefinitely due to embarrassment or uncertainty in the feelings of a partner.
In order for the long-awaited moment of kissing to come, you need to help your partner relax, make him feel sympathetic. Regardless of what gender the person you want to push to the first step, there are three strategies of behavior: easy flirting, cunning and the principle of a psychological anchor.
Flirting is worth trying first, as the lack of initiative on the part of the other person can serve as a signal that they are insecure about your feelings. It is likely that he is afraid of scaring you off too quickly, or fears a negative reaction. If that's the case, flirting a little on your part can help deal with his fears.
Do not confuse flirting with deliberately relaxed behavior (demonstratively sliding your tongue over your lips, unbuttoning extra buttons on your shirt), here you need to act much more subtly.
The most transparent hint (not overstepping the bounds of decency) of the desire to receive a kiss is the periodic glances at the lips of the partner. When flirting, it is important to be close enough to the person and focus all your attention on him, looking less around. Unobtrusive touches provoke rapprochement: for example, you can brush off a leaf that has fallen on your coat or touch your forearm, attracting attention. If the other person is looking into your face, do not look away.
It may happen that the first method does not destroy the wall of alienation. Then a trick can be applied. The goal is to subtly bring your face as close as possible to your partner's. The female option: stumble or slip so that the man is forced to pick up or hug you or (even more graceful) ask him to help you descend from the high parapet. Male version: unexpectedly turn around and lean forward, as if you saw or heard something. In many cases, when the lips are very close, this method works.
Applying various tricks, you must not lose the naturalness of your behavior for a moment. The feeling of theatricality of what is happening will only scare away your chosen one (chosen one).
The third way to approach the goal is to create a psychological anchor. The result is achieved through conversations on intimate topics, so here you should be especially delicate and careful. It is better to use this technique when others have already been tried. To get the desired effect, you need to carefully bring your partner to vivid memories of the moment when he felt the greatest attraction to someone. Memory will automatically provoke echoes of these sensations in the body and, as a result, increased sympathy for the nearest nearby object, that is, for you.
This principle has its roots in neurolinguistic programming. If the achieved result suits you, you can consolidate the success by installing a tactile anchor: touching a person (outside the box, since only you can run your hand along his neck or hair). After that, almost at any time, with a similar touch, his body will reproduce the emotions and sensations that he experienced at the moment of contact.
