Any normal girl has a hard time breaking up with a guy she truly loved. Even when she herself was the initiator of the break. What can we say about those cases when she was abandoned! Resentment, wounded pride, confusion. For some, especially impressionable girls, the gap is perceived almost as the end of the world. They are ready to give up on themselves: it means I'm ugly! Fortunately, things rarely go to such extremes. Often the girl is ready to forgive and return the guy. But how to do that? How to make him realize his mistake?
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, try to drive away despondency and heavy thoughts, stop tormented by remorse: "Probably, I am also to blame …". Even if there is indeed a grain of your fault in the gap, self-criticism will not lead to anything good. You just need to take this into account for the future, so as not to repeat the same mistakes.
Step 2
Constantly inspire yourself: I am not only beautiful, I look good, I attract the attention of men, but I am also happy with my life, I am in harmony with the world. Increasing your inner self-esteem is a very important and absolutely necessary step if you are determined to return your old love!
Step 3
And no attempts to meet, explain, reconcile! In the overwhelming majority of cases, this will only irritate the former lover: well, the annoying bore will not lag behind! And what only did he find in you before?
Step 4
Instead, make a very strong and truly win-win move - awaken feelings of jealousy in your ex. Alas, many guys are characterized by excessive masculine self-confidence: they say, I just have to whistle - at least a dozen of the same girls will come running, but whether she will find at least someone else is a big question! As soon as he sees that you have not only not fallen into despair from the breakup, but have clearly awakened the other guy's attention, it will be a strong psychological blow for him. And he will probably think: "Didn't I play the fool?"
Step 5
Therefore, you should remember that on your ex-lover "the light did not converge like a wedge." There are tons of other guys out there! Even if the relationship with one of them does not go beyond harmless flirting, it will be very useful for increasing all the same self-esteem.
Step 6
If the efforts bear fruit, that is, the former lover reminded of himself with a phone call or SMS message, you do not need to answer too coldly, all the more rudely or gloatingly. But there is no need to rush to "open embrace" either. An even, sustained tone without harshness, but also without warmth is exactly what is required at the first stage of reconciliation. And then you have to act according to the situation.
