The word "divorce" for many men and women sounds scary, frightening. It symbolizes the ruthless breakdown of the old way of life, of all that once seemed so strong, indestructible. Alas, no one is immune from this sad event: neither the newlyweds, nor the spouses who celebrated the silver wedding. The reasons can be very different, from such trifles as the mismatch of tastes and habits, to very difficult and sad ones, such as betrayal, beatings, alcoholism. How to behave so that divorce does not seem like the end of the world?
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, try to tune yourself to the thought: yes, this is sad, offensive, painful. But because you fall into despair, begin to curse the whole world and evil fate, nothing will change! We must somehow live on.
Step 2
Constantly instill in yourself: there is nothing shameful or unworthy in this. This is not the end of the world! Only death is irreversible, and any other situation can be somehow experienced, corrected.
Step 3
If the divorce happened due to the antisocial behavior of the husband (alcoholism, drunken scandals, fights, beatings), the woman should decisively and irrevocably drive away any thoughts about her guilt. Every adult is responsible for his own destiny! And if he still called himself the head of the family - also for his loved ones! Yes, you may not have been the best wife, but this in no way justifies the disgusting behavior of your ex-husband. Nobody poured vodka into his mouth by force. Now this nightmare will be a thing of the past. Is it worth regretting the collapse of such a marriage?
Step 4
If the spouses who are getting divorced have minor children, every effort should be made to injure them as little as possible. The situation when divorced parents turn their children into an instrument of revenge on their former halves is absolutely unacceptable. Do not spare yourself and your reputation - at least have pity on the children who are not to blame for anything!
Step 5
If possible, try to change the environment, meet new people, find some kind of hobby for your liking. You can radically change your image, relax with friends in a cafe. Do not go back to divorce all the time, do not cook in your troubles. If possible, be sure to go somewhere, preferably abroad. Wander off, get a lot of new impressions, make acquaintances. Who knows, maybe you will meet your new love.
