The woman married a divorced man. Everything seems to be fine: a reliable, decent person, without bad habits, sincerely loves a new wife, and from a material point of view, the family has no problems. It would seem, live and rejoice! But here's the bad luck: a woman cannot come to terms with the fact that her husband often visits his former family, pays great attention to his first child. Because of this, she is jealous, offended, feels insecure. Quarrels and conflicts can begin in the family.
Instructions
Step 1
Understand a simple thing: your emotions are understandable and natural, but you should not be led by them. Yes, a woman wants to feel loved and the only one, she experiences discomfort, jealousy, if someone else gets the attention of her partner. But this is not so much about your husband's ex-wife as about his children. And children are sacred for any normal person.
Step 2
In no case do not blame your husband, do not make scenes, scandals. You will only achieve by this that he will move away from you. He will inevitably have a thought: "But it turns out that she is callous, cruel." Understand that he is interested in his children, still loves them, helps as much as possible, speaks in his favor. You must have heard sad stories about how men after a divorce do not even remember their children, do not provide them with the slightest help, and in every possible way avoid paying alimony. And you and your friends were sincerely indignant: how can you be so heartless. Do not love your ex-wives - your right, but the children are not to blame for anything. Your husband is completely different, he has both a heart and a sense of responsibility. It is necessary to rejoice, not to reproach.
Step 3
It is quite natural that from time to time you have fears - "Will he return to his former family?" But think, if you put pressure on your husband, arrange scenes, put forward ultimatums "Either I, or they!", Then this may just happen. Instead of reproaches and scandals, ask your husband questions about the health and affairs of his children yourself, offer your all possible help if you need it. If the children are old enough, offer to invite them over to visit. This approach will certainly delight and touch your husband, will benefit the strength of your family.
Step 4
As a last resort, if you think that your husband pays too much attention to the former family or helps her too generously, you can talk to him about this topic, but politely, delicately. Avoid categorical, displeased tone. In the beginning, be sure to emphasize the fact that his love and attention to his children is understandable, natural and respected on your part. And then you can get to the heart of the matter: "But, you must admit, now your family is here, and I also need your attention and care."
