There are many differences in male and female psychology. Everyone knows this, but quarrels and misunderstandings between people who love each other are not diminishing. So, a woman wants to share her feelings, emotions, news - she wants to speak out. A man does not have such a need. How to get your chosen one to talk?
Instructions
Step 1
Prepare. For a woman, conversation is relaxation, for a man, it is work. Do not dump a heap of news on your beloved's head and ask a bunch of questions as soon as he crosses the threshold of the house. It is enough just to say that you are happy to see him. Give your husband a chance to relax and disconnect from work problems, offer dinner. And only then start the conversation.
Step 2
Don't make lengthy prefaces, start with the essentials. Usually, when a woman wants to tell something, she gives a lot of details that are completely unnecessary in the opinion of a man, and only then gets down to the point. But while you are making the introduction, your chosen one will already "disconnect" from the conversation, lose interest in it and will not accept the idea that you want to convey to him.
Step 3
Don't force the conversation. If you see that your loved one is tired, upset, preoccupied with something, then it is better to postpone an important conversation. In addition, many ladies, trying to get a man to talk, ask many questions. But such pressure leads to the fact that he simply does not know what to say, and if he does, he will not say on principle.
Step 4
Try to avoid hints and ambiguities in your conversation. Everything is simple here - the representatives of the stronger sex do not understand hints, and sometimes they pretend that they do not understand. Therefore, if you want to achieve something from your loved one, make a specific request. And there is no need to discuss a frosty winter if what you really want is winter boots.
Step 5
Be specific. For a man, a conversation is primarily an exchange of information aimed at obtaining a result. Therefore, they hate "empty talk". There is no need to say: “Let's discuss our relationship,” such phrases are scary. It is better to start right away with what you are not satisfied with and suggest your solution to the problem.
Step 6
Talk about what is interesting to your chosen one. If he excitedly tells you about the results of the last match, listen carefully and show interest, even if you know nothing about football. But then, in gratitude, the man will be ready to listen to what happened in your favorite TV series.
Step 7
Don't interrupt even if you disagree with the other person's point of view. In an important conversation, allow the man to express his vision of the problem, and only then ask questions and say what you disagree with. Also, when expressing your point of view, turn to thoughts, not emotions. That is, the phrase “I think that …” is more likely to attract the attention of a representative of the stronger sex than “it seems to me”, “I feel”, etc.
Step 8
If you have had a difficult day, you are upset and you want to be pitied, remember that for your chosen one, just sitting and listening is doing nothing. That is, he cannot only sympathize with you, but will try to offer a solution to the problem. If you do not need this, it is better not to start a conversation; it will be especially difficult for a man if he cannot help in a particular situation. Then he will be annoyed by his own impotence, and, consequently, the conversation.
