A woman of mystery is the most attractive image for a man. But many ladies make the mistake of trying to fully and in the shortest possible time to reveal their inner world to the chosen one. How can you avoid this and remain a seductive secret for the other half?
Things to Avoid
At the first acquaintance with the alleged second half, modern women try to keep "in the spirit of the times": somewhat emancipated, frankly, without pretending to be coquettish. They save their time by giving out dossiers about themselves instead of hints. They try not to complicate the life of young people in the hope of not frightening them, adhering to the principle of “your own shirt-guy”. What kind of mystery and enigma of the unattainable princess can we talk about here?
In order to set the right tone from the very beginning, you do not need to be close to your heart (this applies not only to men, but also to any friends and acquaintances). The main skill that manifests itself at the first meetings, dates, walks should be the ability to listen, not speak. You can't immediately burden the interlocutor with your family tree, medical records and chatter about girlfriends. If in your own life there are only a couple of intriguing, exciting facts, even they will have to be stretched at least two times.
Information about yourself should be given in doses, in the best serial traditions, breaking off at the most interesting place and leaving on time.
Do not bore a man with everyday details, do not become a radio working for the background and, of course, do not act out of yourself a feigned mystery in the style of a lady-vamp. These are the main points to avoid.
What you need to comprehend
Communication with a man of a real woman of mystery, the one about whom they say “there is something in her,” without fully realizing what exactly, should resemble the dance of the seven veils. But the last veil should never be dropped. You cannot dissolve in a man, becoming a faceless shadow, but you need to be slightly selfish. A kind of fragile-looking Mademoiselle with a steel rod in her character.
To always be not fully understood, you need to bring something new into your life and his life: a change of style, hairstyle, new dishes, a constant striving for the most diverse forms of leisure. It is important to change even the demeanor: from an admiring gullible girl to a self-sufficient princess.
In order for the mystery not to disappear, so that a woman feels independence and a kind of "second life", you need to be able to take time for yourself: your circle of friends and girlfriends, hobbies that completely capture attention for several hours, travel, trips to the spa, trips for the city, sports or collective gatherings for tea - everything where you can relax without your chosen one, which can be mentioned in passing, but not retell the details.
To keep the mystery in oneself, one must periodically open up from a new side, but so that it seemed that this novelty was always inside, and became obvious only thanks to the diligent search for a man and only for him.
