In the old days, women unconditionally passed the initiative in making important decisions in families to men. Yes, it could not be otherwise, because men were physically stronger, they were concerned about ensuring material well-being, and the whole society was built on the principle of male dominance. In our time, the situation has changed. Women are increasingly not satisfied with the secondary role in the family.
Instructions
Step 1
To take the initiative into your own hands, first of all assess your real capabilities. If you are a shy, indecisive person, subject to doubts and have never put forward serious initiatives before, relying on your husband in everything, then it will be psychologically difficult for you to cope with a new role. Do you really need it? Perhaps it would be more correct to gently nudge the husband towards the necessary decisions?
Step 2
If you have come to the conclusion that there is no other way, and you are able to make decisions and take responsibility for their implementation on yourself, then try to change your line of behavior and some "non-leadership" character traits. Cultivate confidence, firmness, consistency, exactingness towards yourself and your family members.
Step 3
Be aware of everything that happens in the family, how your spouse and children live. Take on the day to day and household matters. You don't have to rely on someone to pay utility bills, fix a leaking kitchen faucet, make repairs, or go to a parent's meeting. But that doesn't mean you have to roll up your sleeves and get to work. You must properly organize its implementation and control the process.
Step 4
Offer your ideas more often and bring them to mind. Try to gain experience and skills in making important decisions. These decisions must be correct and logical. Never use your emotions to solve problems. Do not give up unfulfilled tasks and do not change your decision if you have made it. In this way, you will gradually gain unconditional authority in your family.
Step 5
Before launching any initiative, consider the feasibility of its implementation. You must be proficient in this topic! Make a clear plan of action. Each of its points should be clear and understandable, first of all, to you yourself. This will increase your confidence in the success of the event and affect the mood of your family members.
Step 6
Putting an idea forward and getting its formal approval from the family is not enough for it to be realized. Act consistently and watch how it is done until the results are satisfactory.
Step 7
Do not forget that if you take upon yourself the solution of absolutely all tasks, you automatically deprive other members of your family of the opportunity to feel necessary, respected, and self-sufficient. Think, do you want to see your relatives as ordinary "cogs" of your will? And how long will they be satisfied with this position? In strong families, decisions are made jointly, or at least roles are assigned in accordance with the capabilities and competence of the husband and wife in a particular area. Take the initiative in those matters that are close to you, and let your husband show it in what he is good at.
