Many external circumstances and other people affect a person's life on a daily basis. At the same time, some still manage to be successful, while others go with the flow, since a certain type of thinking and behavior has become their habit.
Reactive thinking
A person who thinks reactively tends to perceive the world around him, circumstances and events as a cause, and himself as a consequence. He does not live, life happens to him. When something does not go well, he feels like a victim, but he does not particularly try to change the situation, because he does not believe that it is in his power, or it simply does not occur to him. Instead, he adjusts to the circumstances.
Often these people have low self-esteem. They will always find excuses to explain why something didn't work out for them. Fears and insecurities prevent them from taking responsibility. If someone points out to a person with reactive thinking about a successful solution to a problem that has been bothering him for a long time, he will find a bunch of excuses why this solution does not suit him.
The situation is aggravated by the fact that such behavior is actually beneficial to the person. It allows him to stay within his comfort zone, while the ability to change the usual way of action causes him to panic and fear the unknown. In fact, he is comfortable with continuing to live the way he has always been, and self-pity and self-reliance help relieve guilt and missed opportunities.
Proactive thinking
A person who thinks proactively perceives himself as a creator and creator, and life as his creation and the result of his efforts. He is not inclined to shift responsibility to other people and circumstances, to complain and indulge in suffering. He tries to find a way out of difficult situations as painlessly as possible for himself. He acts effectively, active actions prevail over self-digging and worries about obstacles.
Even if the efforts of a person with proactive thinking did not lead to the desired result due to the force of circumstances, he tries to achieve the goal again, or draws conclusions, learns lessons and begins to work on new goals in accordance with the changed conditions. He understands that even if he cannot influence the situation, he himself chooses how he treats it - to suffer and feel sorry for himself or to focus on something more useful.
As a rule, people with a proactive mindset and behavior achieve much more in life than people with a reactive one. They often get even more than they bargained for because they don't waste time and see opportunities.
