Cheating on a loved one tends to cause a lot of pain and suffering. But if you want to forgive a traitor, look for ways to justify his behavior, you should take into account the reasons for what happened. Perhaps he or she could not resist, becoming a victim of a hormonal surge or too many alcoholic drinks and committed not spiritual treason, but physical.
What is the difference between physical and spiritual betrayal?
Treason, like many other phenomena, can have several varieties - in particular, it is customary to divide it into physical and spiritual. Spiritual betrayal is called when it occurs because of the great love of the person who betrayed you for his mistress or lover. You find yourself out of work. That is, a person who previously loved you loses all feelings for you, he has a new object of love, which now means much more to him than you.
New love can be long and short-term, it all depends on the specific situation. There are many cases when people found their happiness in the second, third, etc. marriages, divorcing previous partners. There are also many reverse situations, when, having mistaken a banal hobby for the love of their life, people destroyed their families with their own hands and, as a result, were left alone. In this case, there may be one more, happier outcome: a husband or an unfaithful wife, disillusioned with their new love, return to their spouse and continue to live together.
Physical betrayal is called if it happens by chance, without lofty feelings. For example, a visit by a husband to a prostitute is a physical betrayal, since he does not feel love for her. Physical cheating can happen for various reasons, as a rule, it is easier to forgive and forget about it faster. But often, such a betrayal of a loved one is enough to destroy a family, everything here depends on each specific situation, the worldview of a single person, etc.
Is it possible to do without cheating?
If you love your other half, then the most reasonable will be the desire not to hurt her or him, not to disappoint the person, to avoid situations in which you have to look for various excuses. Any betrayal, be it spiritual or physical, causes a lot of mental suffering, and not only to a devoted person, but also to an unfaithful spouse or spouse.
It is worth remembering that if your family has children, they also suffer greatly from conflicts between parents. Many complexes, phobias and fears of an adult arise against the background of traumatic situations experienced at a young age.
Of course, no one is immune from an outburst of feelings and emotions, but try to remember that you are not free, that there is a person to whom you promised loyalty and love. And then situations in which you have to look for excuses and differentiate betrayals simply will not arise.
