The rite of modern matchmaking is that the future groom, himself or with the help of intermediaries (parents, matchmakers), asks for the hand of the parents of his chosen one. This rite is preceded by the rite of offering a hand and heart directly to the girl herself. The main difference between the matchmaking of our times from the rite of, say, the 16th century, is that young people themselves decide whom to choose as their life companions, earlier their parents made a decision for them.
Necessary
- - strict suit,
- - flowers 2 bouquets.
Instructions
Step 1
First, you need to make a marriage proposal to the girl herself. This can be done in a number of ways. You can directly say the phrase "Marry me!" or do it in a veiled form. The proposal should be made in a sober mind, in a light, pleasant atmosphere, face to face. It must come from the heart. If you received a positive response to your proposal, you can start preparing matchmaking.
Step 2
Next, the young should inform their parents about their decision. For this, a certain day is assigned, on which the groom, dressed in a formal suit and with two bouquets in his hands (one for the bride, the other for her mother), appears at the exact time to the bride's parents. You can make an appointment in neutral territory, for example, in a cafe or restaurant. The visit should be brief.
Step 3
You must repeat your marriage proposal and ask the girl's hand from her father. After that, if the head of the family agrees, then he puts his daughter's hand in yours.
Step 4
Best of all, if you time the matchmaking for a family celebration or a significant date. In such an atmosphere, the meeting will take place in a supportive and natural setting. You can bring a support group with you in the form of parents, godparents, or close friends. Just make sure that there are no more than three people accompanying you.
Step 5
After obtaining the consent of the bride's parents for the wedding, you can start negotiations about preparing for the event. Make a list of estimated expenses, make a preliminary calculation of guests and discuss the amount of expenses for each party.
Step 6
Be sure to ask questions related to the venue of the banquet. As a rule, cafes and restaurants are ordered six months before the celebration. The same goes for toastmaster, photographer and operator services.
Step 7
After you have decided on your wedding preparations, agree on a date for the engagement. Usually, an engagement is an event to declare oneself as a bride and groom among friends, acquaintances, and colleagues. That is, an official statement about the upcoming wedding ceremony.
