How many times in your entire life have you heard declarations of love? Probably more than once. Most people themselves have repeatedly told others about their fiery feelings. But for some reason, many couples break up. Maybe this happens because of "irreconcilable contradictions", or maybe the reason for this is the fact that they take some other, albeit no less bright, feeling for love. The main thing, in a series of crazy loves and hobbies, is to be able to recognize true love when it comes.
It is necessary
Free time to think
Instructions
Step 1
True love can be easily confused with strong affection, with falling in love, with passion. As a rule, you can only talk about whether the real feeling owns you or not after a couple of years from the beginning of the relationship. It is by this moment that the passions subside, the grinding is almost over, the pink glasses are gone, all the advantages and disadvantages of the partner are known. Think about whether you know why you love your partner. If you can name no more than a couple of three qualities, and put external data in the first place, then this is not about love.
Step 2
True love cannot exist without the respectful attitude of partners to each other. Consider if the actions of you and your partner indicate that you respect each other. For example, a person who respects their partner will never make decisions for two.
Step 3
When trying to recognize true love, consider whether there is self-interest in your relationship on one side or the other. A loving person will not try to satisfy their needs through a romantic relationship with a partner. On the contrary, a truly loving person will try to make the other person happy, by words and, most importantly, by deeds, confirming their feelings. He will not demand that the partner also try to do something for his good. A loving person has a need to do something good for the person he loves.
Step 4
As you strive to recognize true love, remember if there are any possessive motives in your love, tough manifestations of jealousy. True love is not obsessive, there is no place for desperate jealousy in it, it does not deny the freedom and independence of another person. If, suddenly, one person wants to leave, then a truly loving partner will let him go, wishing him happiness. He will not impose his feelings, he will not demand proof of love. True love does not require reciprocity.
Step 5
As you try to recognize true love, consider how constructive your feeling is. True love inspires heroic deeds, but does not in any way cause destructive aspirations. The world of a person who truly loves does not shrink to the size of one person. A loving person does not strive to become one with a loved one, he can feel a sense of unity, but, at the same time, have a separate life with his hobbies, affairs, friends. A loving person does not seek to spend all the time with a partner. Loving people use the pronoun "we" instead of the pronouns "I" and "he", but at the same time, they remain different personalities. And, that is why, despite the good knowledge of a partner, loving people do not get tired of getting to know each other all their lives.
