Some relationships, even with good guys, end up breaking up for reasons beyond their control. Most often, you don't want to hurt a person who has been with you for a long time and lived the same life.
Instructions
Step 1
To begin with, you should understand yourself, so down with all your girlfriends, friends, advisers. Stay alone with your thoughts and finally decide for yourself whether to leave such a good guy or not. Answer simple questions: is this decision conscious and sincere or is it a momentary impulse that arose under the influence of a desire for revenge; when exactly did you realize that you are not satisfied with the relationship; Are you breaking up because one of you has changed. If, after answering the questions, you still have the slightest hint of maintaining the relationship, then you should try.
Step 2
If you unambiguously decided to leave, then you should prepare well for a serious and difficult conversation. Identify for yourself the arguments with which you will operate when parting. Just do not start the conversation with accusatory words, as if only he is to blame for everything. Relationships are usually built by two people, and if they fall apart, then both are to blame. If you blame him for breaking up, then the guy may develop an inferiority complex, and besides, you give him false hope - if he changes, then your relationship will return to normal.
Step 3
And now the hardest part is the conversation. Make an appointment in neutral territory. Choose a location that you don't have any memories of. Explain why you decided to end the conversation, while thanking him for the pleasant and wonderful minutes you spent together. Do not blame him for anything - you have decided to end the relationship, period. Do it beautifully and without scandals.
Step 4
Don't give hope for a renewal of the relationship. Perhaps he will call you, stalk you, write heartbreaking SMS messages. You are as solid as an iceberg in the ocean - no goodbye meetings, no kissing, and certainly no goodbye sex. This will not make it easier for anyone, but will only aggravate the situation. It is better to chop off the ends immediately than to tear off small pieces from the heart.
Step 5
If you respect and appreciate this person, then do not disappear from his life. everyone has the right to a final conversation. If you think that it will be easier and easier this way, then you are greatly mistaken. The guy will engage in self-digging, and he will only look for the reasons for the gap in himself. This can hit a young person's self-esteem very hard.
Step 6
A disgusting way to break up is cheating with another guy, and do it so that he or his friends know. Yes, perhaps he himself will leave you, but first, think about whether you want to gain a reputation as a frivolous, windy girl, not capable of serious and deep feelings?
