Among the primitive South American tribes, the son-in-law after the wedding should have avoided meeting with the mother-in-law, it was forbidden to look at her and talk to her. It was believed that a warrior, upon seeing his wife's mother, would lose strength. But in African tribes there was a more severe custom: if the mother-in-law visits the son-in-law's house, the man acquires the right to kill her. In Gabon, the opposite is true: the groom is obliged to move to his mother-in-law's house and please her in every possible way. So that the relationship of the son-in-law with the second mother does not cause family quarrels and does not repeat the behavioral norms of some tribes, it is worth trying to establish contact.
Instructions
Step 1
Understand and internalize the fact that you do not choose your mother-in-law - you chose your wife. And you will have to enjoy not only communicating with your beloved wife, but also find a common language with her relatives, putting up with all their advantages and disadvantages. Show friendliness, patience, generosity and restraint, join family traditions, respect the opinion and desires of your mother-in-law, no matter how they contradict your outlook on life and worldview.
Step 2
Do not give advice and do not teach this adult woman to live with well-established life principles and concepts. It is better to let her know once again that you strive to do everything for the happiness of her daughter.
Step 3
Do not criticize and, moreover, do not scold your mother-in-law. Insults and unconstructive criticism will only turn your spouse and her mom against you. Reasonable claims can be made to the mother-in-law in a personal conversation. And even here, think carefully - your discontent should not be based on naked emotions. Otherwise, your words can turn into a scandal and a hidden resentment.
Step 4
If a quarrel broke out between you, try to control yourself, do not be rude, do not insult or show a disdainful attitude. Always remember, firstly, the mother-in-law is a woman, and secondly, she is much older than you. Be a gentleman in every situation.
Step 5
Do not refuse visits from your relative and do not neglect her invitations yourself. Over the years, people become more sentimental: a grown-up daughter, growing up grandchildren - she most likely wants to make sure that everything is safe in your family. Emphasize once again how much you value her attention and care for you and your children.
Step 6
Don't forget to wish your second mom a happy birthday and other important holidays. Give nice gifts, flowers and compliments. She is primarily a woman, and she will appreciate your attention.
