Divorce, on whatever initiative or fault it occurs, is always stressful for the participants in the process. Children especially suffer in such a difficult situation.
No longer a sample
Parents for their child are always an example and role model. When they get divorced, the child experiences stress, even if the parents turned out to be wise people and managed to maintain a calm relationship. After all, the main value in a person's life is collapsing - the family.
It often happens that each of the former spouses starts a new family. And here everyone has a hard time. How should the father's new wife behave with his children? How can children accept their father's new wife?
First of all, you should talk to your child like an adult. This can be done by both the father and the mother. Moreover, the mother, whatever the relationship with her ex-spouse, should be diplomatic, restrained and tactful. You should not impose your personal grievances and omissions with your spouse on joint children. This does not lead to anything good. On the contrary, it should be explained that sometimes in life it happens that people cannot be together. That life is one, and everyone wants their own happiness. That dad did not begin to love less, he just feels good with this woman, which means that for the sake of dad we must try to come to terms with her and behave accordingly.
If you have to live together
The situation is complicated when you have to live with your father's new family. Here, of course, the behavior of each family member is important, especially the responsibility of the father increases. It is he who should try to establish friendly relations between his two close people. The father needs to talk to his new wife, explain that he cannot devote all his free time to her, since he has a son / daughter. The conversation should also take place between the father and his child. In any case, a man should be tactful, somewhere to make concessions so as not to cause harm.
If you have to live with your father's new wife, and you cannot live separately yet, then behave more tolerantly towards them. Of course, each situation is individual and requires separate consideration, but still try to accept your father's new wife. You should definitely not make any intrigues, arrange conspiracies against her. Complaining too much to her father about her. Remember, you risk losing the affection and trust of not only your stepmother, but also your father.
If your stepmother is not a bad person, wants to make friends with you, tries to please you and your father, then try to calm down the resentment in your soul against your father for not staying with your mother, and try to communicate with her as equals. This is not at all a betrayal on your part in relation to your mother. This is a reasonable attitude to the current situation.
