Usually, attachment is understood as a kind of connection between people that attracts and holds two people close when there is no objective need for this: there is no feeling of love, there are no common interests, there is no mutual benefit. In the philistine environment, attachment is most often called love or friendship, but, unfortunately, this is far from always the truth.
Instructions
Step 1
Attachment is divided into healthy and sick. By healthy they mean a very close emotional connection, when it is really needed, while there is a possibility of getting rid of it quite easily if the relevance of communication with a person disappears. In the case when attachment to specific people does not bring pleasure, but, on the contrary, causes mental pain, psychological breakdown, causes fear, this is already a painful attachment. Well, in the case when attachment deprives a person of any kind of freedom, a real dependence arises. The reasons for the formation of such attachments are very diverse, but most often they arise precisely in those people who sincerely believe that it is this painful form of attachment that is the most natural.
Step 2
If you are afraid of becoming dependent on another person, you should know why this is happening. There is an opinion of psychologists that it is painful attachments that are nothing more than a forced substitute for true love for those who really do not know how to love and do not want to learn, because they love people just like that, giving all their most tender feelings and warmth. without asking for feedback. And only with a painful attachment is the need for a reverse, exactly the same reaction felt very acutely, and when it is absent, suffering and torment begin. Therefore, the most important rule in the game called "How not to get attached to people" is the need to learn to love without the counter demand of unconditional return feelings. Only by learning not to expect anything from people, you can save yourself from painful addictions.
Step 3
The second important rule when fighting attachments is the presence or understanding of your own meaning in life. And the meaning of life should not be the cultivation of addictions or painful addictions to other people, because, according to psychologists, this is nothing more than an artificially created semblance of the meaning of life.
Step 4
When you communicate with a person for a long time and begin to understand that you have stopped breathing and living without him, you should immediately eradicate such thoughts. Always be prepared for the fact that sooner or later, he will leave you anyway, just like others did. People imperceptibly come into your life and imperceptibly leave it, and others take their place. If you initially set yourself the mindset that your communication is temporary, the loss of a loved one will not cause so much pain and suffering in you.
Step 5
Don't get hung up on the subject of your adoration. Try to keep yourself busy and interact with other people. If you live only by him, the termination of this connection will leave only emptiness, you will simply be left alone with your thoughts and experiences.
