Attraction, falling in love, obsession, love at first glance have very similar signs. However, the main difference is just difficult to determine at first glance, because it is hidden deep inside. This feeling is at the subconscious level, it is born in the soul and never leaves. It takes a lot of time to realize what is happening, love is unhurried. A number of questions that you need to answer yourself will help you understand what is behind the irresistible craving for a particular person.
Instructions
Step 1
What is the interest in a partner based on. Sexual background, appearance or any talents are those qualities that attract at first. Real feeling is based on deep respect, affection, concentration, on the inner world of a loved one. Pay attention to whether you are interested in knowing about his troubles and victories. Whether you are happy or sad with him. How much appearance influences your attitude towards him. If this is love, then most likely you, of course, will notice that something is wrong, but this will not play a decisive role. We see our loved ones with our “inner” vision, so they are always the most beautiful and desirable for us.
Step 2
A sense of ownership. It is known that freedom for any person is more important than love. If you really love a person, you are able to give him this freedom, let him go if circumstances require and not expect anything in return. Think about whether you are ready for the sake of the well-being of another person not to limit your personal space and to respect the decisions you make without making your own adjustments. If he decides to leave, will you hate or let go in peace? Will you take it for granted that he cannot fully respond to your feelings? In the event that the answer to all questions is in the affirmative, do not hesitate - this is love.
Step 3
Manifestations of feelings. It is usually extremely difficult to talk about something real. If you easily pronounce the words: "I love you", and then with the same ease you can offend a person, you should know that this is not love, it is an obsession, passion. Whatever you name it, but this emotion is very, very far from a bright and pure feeling. Love condemns dumbness. Very often, outwardly, it looks like indifference. This comes from the fact that loving people focus more on the feelings of the other than on their own.
