Unfortunately, not every married couple can live happily ever after. And the most important thing after parting is to maintain a civilized relationship for the sake of children. After all, they are the ones who suffer from divorce to a greater extent. And mothers have to make a lot of efforts for the correct upbringing of children in an incomplete family, in which they would not feel lonely.
Instructions
Step 1
The biggest mistake single moms make is the wrong father image they instill in their daughter. Rarely does anyone manage to part with the child's father without resentment and mutual insults. And all the unspoken words personally develop into conversations with a child who is not to blame for anything. But he has to act as a buffer between his mother's dislike for the "former." But let's figure it out, if your former loved one was such a scoundrel, then why did you love him and were with him? With such conversations, you can only lose credibility in the eyes of the child and be an indiscriminate fool. But love for the father can only intensify, as for the victim that such a pretentious lady met.
Step 2
The best option would be a neutral statement about the child's father, especially if the couple's life together did not take place. Answer your daughter's questions calmly, without evaluative statements. It is better if the conversation is in the key: “I really wanted a child and I gave birth to him, but your dad had other plans for life. But I am grateful to him that I have you. This option is suitable if the child's father does not take part in his upbringing. If your daughter sees her father regularly, he may have a different opinion about your breakup. In this case, reach an agreement with your spouse that you will stick to one version in the best interests of your daughter. Although, sometimes it can be very, very difficult to reach a compromise, especially if other relatives intervene.
Step 3
It is difficult for girls growing up in single-parent families without a father to learn how to build correct relationships with the opposite sex. This can be expressed in excessive shyness and, conversely, in hypersexuality. After all, there is no model of the correct relationship between a man and a woman in their own family. Girls can be intimidated by the company of boys if there is no such in the immediate environment. Or compensate for their absence with obsessive behavior. You must understand that this is not the girl's fault. And we are not talking about deviant behavior, but about ordinary children's complexes and a lack of parental love. And we must not scold, but show that there are other facets of life, in which there is a place for love and mutual respect. In many ways, what she heard about men from you at a young age played a role in this behavior of the girl. And all my fears, and sometimes, and hatred transferred into adolescence.
