Relationships between the sexes are rarely cloudless and do not suffer from an abundance of problems. It is not necessary to accept this, but it is also impossible to overcome obstacles and misunderstandings, guided by general recommendations. Each case is different, for example, sometimes a guy suffers from frequent slaps from a girl.
The reasons for the aggressive behavior of girls
There is no cause without effect, and therefore it is necessary to look for the origins of assault on the part of the girl, so that this does not happen in the future. Usually, slaps are given by people who have an increased aggression index. There are several reasons for this state: a false understanding of the world (a girl should humiliate a guy, subjugate him to herself), a low culture of upbringing, insufficient cultural education.
If a girl's family has a primitive level of communication between parents, when even a hint of confrontation causes physical aggression, the daughter subconsciously copies this behavior. In this case, you can advise gently but persistently to convince your beloved that such antics are impermissible. An example of positive communication in your family will also help.
But the reasons for slapping a guy frequently can be situational: nervous, social, and chemical. The sources of aggression can also be purely physical - hormonal disorders, which are frequent in adolescence. You cannot do anything about this, you just need to wait for the body to finish restructuring. One of the most common causes of girls' aggression is exposure to alcohol. It is not even necessary to say that both alcohol and drugs should be excluded from the life of your couple.
What a guy should do if a girl slaps him generously
If a girl slaps you over and over again to get something from you that you can't get in another way, you must change your behavior as well. This must be done without fail, since a person who constantly hurts another begins to justify his behavior. In psychology, this process is called "cognitive dissonance." To get rid of him, the aggressor endows the person he is offended with bad qualities.
That is, if you endure slaps in the face, it means that in the eyes of a girl you look like a rag, a weak-willed man. Of course, one should not respond with physical violence, but it is necessary to calmly and convincingly say that you will not allow such an attitude anymore and end the relationship. At the same time, think about how to bring something new and exciting into your life, so that both of you can channel energy in a different direction, forgetting about scandals.
To remove the aggressive impulses of the girl, you need to find another way out, and not accumulate them. Sports, hiking, team games and even shopping are great for this. As a result, the girl's aggressive energy turns into positive emotions and splashes out in the form of joyful laughter and cheerful dance. Notice how your loved one jumps and screams in a funny way, having achieved something long desired. At these moments it would never occur to her to slap in the face!
There is nothing unnatural in anger, but it is necessary to teach the child from childhood to express aggressive impulses in an acceptable form. If this is not laid down in the family, in the future a person will have problems in relations with other people.
