Unfortunately, rudeness is a very common phenomenon. An unflattering characteristic of your own person, heard even from the lips of a completely unfamiliar person, can ruin your mood for the whole day. Therefore, you need to know how to communicate with boors.
Instructions
Step 1
Don't raise your voice. The best way to provoke a boor and entertain the audience is to go up in tones and get into a skirmish. Trying to humiliate and insult, the aggressor provokes you to a response, because it is much easier for him to control such a "conversation" than a constructive conversation. Maintaining the set tone, you may be able to defend your own point of view, but you will not look your best in the eyes of others (and in your own).
Step 2
Be polite. Instead of sinking to the level of the interlocutor, cool him down with your own tact. After all, the tendency to criticize everyone and everything, as well as to notice other people's mistakes and shortcomings, is the lot of insecure people who are not satisfied with their lives. Instead of yelling or, even worse, making excuses in response, listen to the angry tirade in silence. Then inform the instigator of the conflict that you are not going to continue the conversation in such a tone. Invite him to calm down and put himself in order first, and then return to the conversation again.
Step 3
You're kidding. If your sense of humor is your strong point, then respond to spiteful remarks in a humorous manner. Make all witnesses to the conflict smile. This is the most effective way to embarrass a provocateur. After all, trying to arrange "showdowns", he tries to attract attention to himself, get the approval of others and assert himself at your expense. It is unlikely that a boor expects good-natured laughter and condescending smiles. And he is unlikely to enjoy playing the role of a local clown.
Step 4
Ignore it. Don't know how to parry derogatory remarks with sparkling humor? Learn to respond to attacks with indifferent silence. Staring the other person directly at the bridge of the nose is confusing. To stay calm and calm, imagine that there is a transparent wall between you and the aggressor. Try to visualize it to the smallest detail, imagine how the words of the interlocutor hit against this wall and fly back. Another popular technique: mentally pour a bucket of water over the boor's head, or imagine that he is … naked. Thus, you not only abstract from the unpleasant situation, but also cheer yourself up.
