“Every couple has the right to make their own rules,” said the heroine of the typically female film Sex and the City. How different will they be from the generally accepted forms of relationships? And how much will be accepted by the society? Many psychologists have tried to answer these questions.
About freedom and relationships
An open relationship is perceived by most couples as something progressive, unsteady, and untrustworthy. Couples who are afraid of routine and family life, people who refuse long-term serious relationships, experimenters or those who are sorely lacking personal space tend to such relationships.
For many men, this kind of "love" is the most preferable. As someone said, what is important for them is not "the presence of another fork, but the presence of the possibility of another fork." At the same time, when the forbidden fruit ceases to be so tempting and unattainable, it is the one for the sake of which one can neglect a certain degree of freedom and come to the fore.
For women, freedom in relationships is needed not by itself, but for the sake of something definite: for the strength for a career, time for oneself-beloved, for the sake of self-affirmation by the number of affected men's hearts, and you never know what else. Women, dating a man like this, are less intrusive, but also more demanding. Who knows who will get her attention the next day / evening / month / year, if today the chosen one does not surprise her with something pleasant when they meet.
Free relationship? Wrap up! I take
Relationships without promises, jealousy, demands, whims, possessiveness and tantrums. Without washing the common dishes in the shared kitchen and "when leaving, take out the trash." No hair curlers or masks, no socks or beer. Perfect, isn't it?
Yes, it is the constant novelty and lack of routine that is so attractive in an open relationship. They exclude the dependence of partners on each other. They destroy the timelines, anniversaries and expectations of the familiar script. No one owes nothing to nobody. You can disperse at any time. But, if everything is so wonderful and not burdensome, why disperse?
This is an obvious outlet for couples looking for a break. For people of age who are sympathetic to each other, but are no longer able and unwilling to adapt, to break their way of life for another. This is perhaps an option for those who have a child and do not want to injure him with the constant presence of a stranger.
A pleasant condition is trust, respect, and yet a preference for the only one. And when someone in a couple is lonely, he or she should give up everything and support in difficult times.
Free relationship? - I pass
This form of relationship is still categorically unsuitable for people seeking to start a family and have a child. The inadequacy on this side of the issue is obvious. Also, such a relationship will be a very difficult test for those who are jealous and impulsive by nature. And why mock yourself with ignorance? Many do not accept extra freedom from a purely aesthetic point of view, someone from an ethical point of view. Someone is afraid of sidelong glances and misunderstanding of friends. You also need to be prepared in advance for the fragility of such love, later it will still grow into something more, you want your beloved shoulder next to it.
Consent to a free relationship must be clearly expressed by both partners and all pros and cons must be carefully thought out. You should not break your destiny if it is just a whim or an attempt to hide an unwillingness to take responsibility and true love.
