Living among people, it is sometimes difficult not to listen to the opinion of society. But if some try not to pay attention to reproaches and slander, then some may be oppressed by the pressure of others. Try to take the situation into your own hands and fight back the offenders.
Instructions
Step 1
While others are trying to teach you life, to command or manipulate you, and you cannot fight them back, try to do this at least mentally. Speak in your mind what you would like, but don't dare to say it in person. Repeat to yourself "I have my own point of view", "I am not obliged to obey them", "What they advise does not suit me", "They do not understand anything." This will help you get through unpleasant moments.
Step 2
Learn to say no. Sometimes people do a lot of unnecessary and unpleasant things for them solely because they cannot refuse: they carry out assignments that are not related to their official duties, attend events at which they would not want to attend, communicate with acquaintances who are not interested in them. Gather your courage and start responding to suggestions that don't make you enthusiastic with a polite refusal. This will save you time and hassle.
Step 3
Do not be silent if something does not suit you. Others may not even be aware of how annoying their teachings irritate you, and sincerely believe that they are giving you useful advice. If a colleague is persistently trying to feed you with homemade pies that you hate, the parents are once again trying to introduce the neighbor's son, and the gentleman persistently plays another serenade under your window, although you desperately want to sleep, declare that this is for you does not suit you, you do not like it, and henceforth you should not do this to you. If you tolerate this treatment, others will consider your behavior tacit consent.
Step 4
Don't let guilt be imposed on you. What you should do is written in your job description and what you shouldn't be in the criminal and administrative codes. All the rest you do voluntarily and of your own free will. Others can express their wishes regarding your actions, but this should not be a direct guide to action.
Step 5
Look for like-minded people. Let there be people in your social circle who are trying to put pressure on you, but if you have friends who can support you and find a decent answer to the offender, it will be easier for you to endure the current situation. Gradually, feeling the participation of loved ones, you will become stronger.
Step 6
If your methods don't work, try to minimize communication with the abuser. Do not bring up topics that are unpleasant to you, talk exclusively to the point. If you notice that someone is trying to pressure you, refer to urgent matters and retreat.
