Divorce is always a difficult time for the whole family. Everyone suffers, including the child. How to protect a kid from parental squabbles without traumatizing his psyche? While the parents sort things out and share property, the child catches their every word, mood, reaction.
Instructions
Step 1
When a family is crumbling, it is difficult to remain calm, it is easy to panic and dramatize a divorce. Negative thoughts and feelings are easily passed on to the child. Now the child is especially in dire need of attention, care and positive emotions, because maternal love is the best vaccination against life's adversities.
Step 2
Inspiring a child that divorce is not a reason for worries, we ignore his feelings, do not take them seriously. Whatever one may say, the departure of the father from the family is a great loss. Explain to your child that you understand how painful and scared he is.
Step 3
You misbehaved, so dad left. A woman who scolds and despises herself for not being able to save the marriage, but invites the child to share responsibility for a failed relationship with her, is capable of saying this.
Try not to involve children in adult conflict: this is a very serious challenge for a child of any age.
Step 4
For a child, dad is an important and beloved person, from whom he inherited many features of his appearance and character. Therefore, the child can transfer criticism to himself: if dad is bad, then so am I. If a girl hears bad reviews about her father, she develops the attitude “all men are bad”. Try to talk about the positive qualities of the ex-husband, and also allow the child to communicate with the father, if this desire is mutual.
