With the advent of industrialization, children turn into a burden, and not into helpers, and their period of growing up drags on to twenty-five years. Families with many children lose financially to childless families. In addition, there are problems with an apartment for future children and problems at work in connection with the appearance of a child. Why do we still want children and have them?
Instructions
Step 1
The instinct of self-preservation. As you know, a person is not only a social creature, but also a biological one, so that unconscious animal instincts are familiar to him. In this case, the child appears as if by itself. Such parents usually shift the upbringing of the child from their shoulders to the shoulders of newly-made grandparents.
Step 2
Herd instinct - "like everyone else." Many people want to have children only because a family without children is inferior. Spouses who obey the herd instinct rarely become good parents, because they have little idea of the process of raising children whom they have "for show".
Step 3
Second I. It happens that parents have a child so that it becomes a kind of continuation of themselves. They hope that their child will do everything that they did not achieve in due time. In this case, the child is given not just a lot, but an excessive amount of attention, which ultimately suppresses the personality of the baby, his desires are not taken into account. A mother who dreams of becoming a musician will make her son sit at the piano for hours. In the future, parents will be disappointed, because their child, sooner or later, will do what he likes.
Step 4
A child as a gift. A woman gives birth to a child only because her mother, her husband or father asked for it. She herself did not feel a craving for pregnancy or childbirth, so she would also treat the child without much joy, preferring to give responsibility to those for whom she made this gift. In such families, children grow up aloof, because they do not feel the love of their most dear people.
Step 5
Glass of water. This is the most losing and ridiculous option. Even now, many have children only so that they can take care of them in old age and bring a glass of water. Such parents simply do not understand that it would be enough to simply save money for a nurse. In addition, the child may become disabled, move to another country, or simply die. Parents need to understand that a child is not an investment in a comfortable old age. When the child grows up, he will become an independent person with his family and career.
Step 6
Social status. Some people just like to call themselves the father or mother of the family. They prove both to themselves and to those around them that they are already independent and adult people, whose opinion everyone should take into account. For example, a girl wants to get married and have a child only to separate from her parents. It happens that the birth of a child changes the couple for the better and forces them to reconsider their outlook on life.
Step 7
Inheritance. A noble motive is to have a child - an heir, to whom experience, skills, capital and property will be transferred. The problem can arise only if the child is not interested in the occupation of the father / mother.
Step 8
Back to childhood. The family gives birth to a child in order to get the opportunity to feel like children again and to relive everything anew - the first steps, the first teeth and the first words, to rediscover a world full of wonders. They will again be able to watch cartoons, draw, play with toys. Interestingly, sometimes parents do it more enthusiastically than children.
Step 9
Creation. Engaging in creativity, people become like God. The highest creation is the creation of new life. A man and a woman who have fallen in love with each other feel a natural desire to merge into one and create a person who will contain their parts.
Step 10
Love. Of course, the happiest children grow up in those families in which both parents created a child precisely because of love. Parents do not remake the child and respect him, and also try in every possible way to help him make his dreams come true.
