There is simply no recipe for a perfect marriage. However, you can try to build relationships in the family in such a way that there are as few reasons for conflict as possible, and the days spent together only please both spouses.
Try to realize that now you are more than just husband and wife. Now you have become one, and the concept of "we" should be firmly entrenched in your life. Selfishness should recede into the background. Before you do anything, think about how it will affect your significant other. It is possible that your actions may harm your relationship, although it may not seem obvious at first.
Repeat all the good things that have been done. Positive actions should not be limited to isolated cases. If you did something good for your spouse, do not expect praise, keep up the good work, and you will notice how your relationship is harmonizing. Soon, this behavior will become the norm, and if the norm brings joy and harmony to family life, then the chances of maintaining a successful union increase markedly.
Do not say whatever you think about during fights. Of course, very often it is extremely difficult to cope with your emotions, especially if you are confident that you are right. However, at such moments you can say a lot of unnecessary things. The reasons for the quarrel will be forgotten, but the words spoken in anger will remain in the memory of your beloved or beloved forever. Before continuing the conversation, consider whether the "game of the candle" is worth it. It is best to cool down a little and only then, having calmed down, sort things out with your soul mate.
Don't blame your spouse for a conflict situation. Always look for the cause of the quarrel in yourself. This will help you to be more objective about what is happening and avoid many unnecessary quarrels. Perhaps your behavior became the basis for the emergence of this situation. Then your accusations will be meaningless and unfair.
Do not use supporters when conflicts arise. Of course, close people are worried about you, but you should not include them in your marriage. You do not need to complain to your parents about fate and ask them to help you in resolving the conflict with your chosen one or chosen one. This can only aggravate the situation.