The ability to communicate is the key to strong family relationships. Listening brings husband and wife closer together. According to statistics, more than 60% of family disputes arise due to the fact that the spouse did not listen carefully to each other, as a result, they misunderstood what was said.
Let's take a look at the root of the problem. You are tired, it is difficult for you to concentrate, the radio is working, children are playing, your life partner begins to tell something animatedly. You probably won't hear half of what he says.
The next step is you make assumptions. This can be called a destructive method of reading minds, because the search for a secret meaning in the words of another - invariably leads to problems.
What needs to be done to learn to listen?
- Try to be completely focused on the conversation, put your business aside, and get ready to listen.
- Don't be a passive listener, ask questions and show genuine interest, arrange to take turns speaking.
- Listen, in spite of the fact that what has been said may hurt or upset you. Criticism can be helpful.
- Be discerning, pay attention to the tone of voice and facial expressions, try to understand what is behind the words, otherwise the argument can kill the true meaning of the words.
- Listening attentively is not just a good communication skill, it is a manifestation of genuine love for a life partner.
