A person can be very successful and respected in the community, but if they lack emotional support at home, they will feel very bad. Emotional rejection in families, unfortunately, is becoming more common. Sometimes the attitude changes dramatically, but more often the communication becomes gradually cooler until it reaches a certain degree of detachment.
Instructions
Step 1
If you notice that your spouse or partner is rejecting you, take immediate action. If this is done on time, the relationship can be restored. First of all, you need to get to the bottom of the reason for the cooling and the resulting detachment. Most often, the problem is that you devote little time to communication with your loved one or communicate on the wrong topics that interest him. Usually, the actual rejection occurs after a minor conflict, against the background of a cooling relationship. Such a conflict can become fatal for a relationship, so it must be resolved in such a way as not to infringe on the interests of your partner. The relationship is worth the sacrifice.
Step 2
In addition, the best family psychologists recommend that you devote at least an hour a week to discussing relationships. Take each other's hands and tell what made you happy and what saddened you during the week. Then turn off the light, take a lighted candle in your hand and ask your partner to talk about what he would like to change in your behavior. Swap places, tell your loved one when he is holding the candle, that you lack emotional support, and what exactly you lack in the relationship, what actions of your partner or words. Then turn on the light and write down the most important problems, as well as ways to remedy the situation.
Step 3
If you are rejected by your child under the age of 12, see a child psychologist: normally, young children are very attached to their parents and cannot refuse emotionally intense communication with their mother and father, if the relationship, in general, was not tainted by deep resentment. If you are rejected by a teenage child, especially a boy, do not take the situation very painfully, this can be overcome over time. The most common reasons for quarrels are insufficient attention to the teenager and his desire to show his independence. A much more serious, but less common reason is when a young man is ahead of his mother or father in terms of development speed and knowledge in areas that are important to him. For example, his knowledge in the field of literature is quite deep, he reads a lot, and if his parents are not interested in book novelties, it is often difficult for him to find topics for communication.
What can you do to regain respect and love in your relationship with your teenager? Spend more time communicating with him and develop as a professional and a person, do not focus only on everyday life, do not limit yourself to formal questions. A teenager for a sincere, unobtrusive love will forgive you even incompetence. The biggest mistake is to let the development of relations take their course, not to pay attention to the growing alienation. In the future, this can lead to a complete misunderstanding and the development of conflict in the relationship.
