It is not uncommon for women to “adopt” a man after they get married. The girl takes on her fragile shoulders all the affairs that her husband is obliged to fulfill. Raising a son, planting a tree and building a house are on the woman's list of tasks, while the man calmly rests on the couch, hiding behind the newspaper.
Instructions
Step 1
The strangest thing in this situation is that wives also justify their spouses with statements that they still cannot do anything good. For all these shortcomings of a man, a woman blames his mother, her excessive custody. But if the young man initially had the ability to do nothing, it is unlikely that the girl would agree to marry him. The conclusion suggests itself that the spouse herself makes the man infantile.
Step 2
If you have a similar situation in your family, it makes sense to observe your behavior in everyday life. How often do you throw such phrases at your husband: “Do not forget… keys, briefcase, umbrella, documents, head…”, “Do you remember that you have to… pick up the child, pay the rent, buy groceries, come on time…”. Do you recognize?
Step 3
And don't you every time you see off your husband, tie him a scarf and pop into your glove pocket? If getting your spouse to work is no different than getting your child off to school, think about the outcome before it's too late. Do not constantly control the man, offer your help only when it is really needed.
Step 4
Don't take your husband's initiative by interrupting him and saying that you know how to do better. You will be bitterly regretful when you notice that your spouse does not prepare more pleasant surprises for you, does not invite you to go somewhere or go together. First, you have already proven that you can handle everything better yourself. Secondly, he is afraid to make a mistake and get a reprimand from you. Thirdly, it is unpleasant for him when you lead him in public.
Step 5
Think about the root causes of your total custody of your husband. No, do you have a fear of losing your spouse? This is a phobia for a large number of Russian women. Also, you do not need to make a weak-willed weak creature out of a man, which, of course, cannot live without you. Don't console yourself with the thought that your husband isn't able to find a clean pair of socks in the closet on his own. He may meet a woman who will offer him even more care.
Step 6
Try to build equal and trusting relationships in the family from the beginning. Be your husband's best friend, gentle lover, reliable partner. In this case, the man will not feel wounded and weak, but will be the real head of the family.
Step 7
Of course, sometimes you can help each other in doing certain things when there are objective reasons for this. For example, if your spouse is sick and has a fever, you can take out the trash for him. The husband is happy to look after you if you fall down with a cold. Remember mutual assistance and community of interests.
Step 8
Compliment and praise your spouse for doing well. A man will strive to please you more often in order to hear how strong, skillful, brilliant and generally the best he is.
