Not all children want siblings. They are quite satisfied with the position of the only and beloved child. The manifestation of a child's natural selfishness and jealousy can be reduced if the child is properly prepared for the birth of a brother.
Talk to your child. Ask him to tell you why he doesn't want a brother. Perhaps he is afraid that the parents will devote all their time to the baby, and they will forget about him or even stop loving him. Or the child does not want to share his things.
Brother is not a competitor
It is quite natural that the child does not want to share the attention and care of the parents with anyone. Explain to your baby that he will forever be dear and unique to you, no matter how many more children appear in your home. Tell him how much you love him as often as possible. Promise to spend 1 hour a day alone with him no matter what. It is important for a child to understand that with the appearance of a baby, he will not become unnecessary and superfluous. Children should not feel like competitors in the struggle for the attention and love of their parents.
Make it clear to your child that he has the right to be jealous and fearful. His fears are not unfounded, because parents often pay less attention to older children when younger children appear. Say that your child can always share his worries with you, and you will come to his aid in any situation.
Brother is a friend
Tell us how great your child will be to play with his brother. Make it clear that your toddler is not a rival, but another family member who will love your child. Give examples from the life of your family or friends that prove that having a brother is a great happiness. Perhaps in your environment there is a family with several friendly children. Or you have a brother or sister with whom you are always ready to share problems.
Read books about siblings. "The Snow Queen", "Three Little Pigs", "Geese-Swans", "Blue Bird" tell stories about how important the help of a loved one is. Discuss what you read. Ask the child to think of how the plot would develop if, for example, Kai did not have Gerda.
Discuss how you will bathe and dress your baby together. Tell them that you will definitely need help caring for your newborn. This will help your child feel that you need his participation in the affairs of the newborn, and your brother needs his care.
Your child will have to share toys with the toddler. Explain this in advance. But the younger brother will also give him his things. Thus, children will have 2 times more toys.
Share that the birth of a brother is a family holiday. Ask your child to make a present for the toddler. It can be a postcard made with your own hands, or one of the toys. Promise that the older brother will also receive a surprise from the younger brother. Buy something for the child in advance and give it on the day you return from the hospital.
