An unplanned pregnancy can be unsettling. At this time, the support of loved ones, especially parents, is needed. But it can be very difficult to tell such news to mom and dad, especially if you do not have the opportunity to financially support yourself and your child.
Instructions
Step 1
If you are in a serious relationship and are ready to get married with your partner, do not be afraid to talk to your parents. When talking, emphasize that you are aware of the responsibility for the child and are ready to create a full-fledged family. It remains to solve some questions, but together with your beloved you can cope with any difficulties. It is quite another matter if the groom is not present or if he ran away after learning about the pregnancy.
Step 2
First you need to sort out your thoughts. How do you feel about your pregnancy? Are you ready to become a mother? Do you have the opportunity to give birth and raise a child without the help of your parents? Think about your future after the baby is born. How do you settle issues with study, work, housing? Answer all of these questions so that you have arguments when talking with your parents.
Step 3
Once you are mentally prepared for the conversation, choose the right time. Communicate the news without strangers. A shared breakfast on weekends is ideal when parents are not in a hurry or busy with work problems. They will be able to listen to you, discuss all the issues, it will be easier for them to come to terms with the sudden news.
Step 4
Do not take the reaction and advice of parents with hostility. Remember that first of all they worry about you and your future life. Raising a child for a single mother is not easy, especially if you are still young and have not finished your studies. Remain calm, encourage your parents to tone down and talk without yelling.
Step 5
If the emotions during the conversation are off scale, it is better to postpone the conversation. Give your parents time to get used to this thought, maybe they can look at the situation from a different angle. Tell them that you cannot continue the discussion in this tone, and then leave. You can refer to feeling unwell if they continue to put pressure on you.
Step 6
Inform that you are going to provide and raise the child on your own. Parents are usually afraid that they will have to constantly sit with their grandchild, feed, clothe and provide for both of you. You need to understand that first of all you are responsible for the baby, not your parents. Make it clear to them that you are not going to shift duties and responsibilities onto them.
Step 7
In any case, do not panic and do not worry in vain. Even if now the parents are indignant and swear, when they see their newborn grandson, they will immediately forget about all the threats and attacks. After all, the birth of a baby changes everything, and no temporary difficulties can be compared with the joy of motherhood.
