Parental divorce is a serious experience for a child. Even if the parents break up in a friendly way, the baby experiences serious stress. How can you make his life easier? Talk to him! Do not think that the child is still small and will not understand anything. Find the right words, find the right tone and you will help your baby get through all the difficulties.
Instructions
Step 1
Find the right words
Children almost always realize that not everything is going smoothly in the family, even if you do not quarrel in front of them. When you are about to tell your children about the divorce, try to talk all together. It is important that the children know that this is a joint decision, otherwise they will blame one of the parents. Don't get into the details of the breakup. Explain to the children that Mom and Dad are breaking up, but both of you still love your children.
Step 2
Be honest
Of course, you will want to make it easier for your children, but don't overdo it. They need to know that while you are all very sad, this is the best solution and will not change. You should not feed their hope that the separation is temporary, and in a couple of months everything will return to normal. Explain to them how everything will happen in the future: court, divorce, moving.
Step 3
Admit your guilt
Children always believe that it is they who are to blame for the divorce of their parents. They imagine that if they were obedient, did not get a C in a year, did not break the window to the neighbors, the parents would stay together. It is necessary to explain to them that the fault lies with the parents, not the children.
Step 4
Don't add excitement
Children are already very worried about divorce, so you should be absolutely calm. When you are about to talk about divorce, demonstrate that everything that happens is normal and natural. Explain that they will communicate with mom and dad and grandparents in the same way, only on different days. If the children are waiting for some event - vacations, trips to the water park, buying a bicycle - calm them down, promise that everything will happen, they will just go to rest with their mother, and they will go to the water park with their dad.
Step 5
Answer their questions
Get ready for a barrage of questions. In fact, this is very good, so you will find out what really worries the children about the divorce, and you can calm them down. Answer in detail and patiently, watch their reaction. Just don't compose, because children attach great importance to your answers. If you still don't know the answer to a specific question (haven't discussed it with your spouse, haven't found a new apartment, etc.), promise to answer as soon as everything becomes clear.
