School is a test not only for children, but also for parents. This is a well-known fact. And when another child appears in the family at this time, a “snowball” of problems begins to form: the elder’s jealousy, lessons, getting ready for school, sleepless nights, cooking, washing.
But none of this can justify your aggression towards one of the children. No matter how many psychologists give recommendations, the process of upbringing proceeds differently in each individual family. There is a certain algorithm, following which, you can create an individual tactics of behavior.
First, never criticize your child for failing at school. There is no problem that the child did not correctly solve the example in school. In a playful way with chopsticks, toys, apples, solve these examples with your child. And get pleasure, and defuse the atmosphere with the game. He reads slowly and cannot remember what he has read - do not shout or throw books, take a deep breath, you can even count to 10. Put yourself in his place. How do you feel when something goes wrong and your boss yells at you.
Second, praise more often for successes, even minor ones. The sun turned out beautifully - already a success. And if the syllables in words began to gather faster, then you should rejoice.
Third, never limit the punishment to the younger child. For example, some parents say, "If you don't study the verse, I'll make you sit with your sister." The youngest older child should be perceived as a reward, not a punishment.
Fourth, hug children more often just like that. Constantly say how much you love them. Yes, now the baby needs to be given more time. And more and more often you hear from the older child: "You love her more." Say that you love him more because he is big. Get out of situations so that the older child understands that you need and love him.
Relatives, especially the husband, should not stay aside. He must understand that now it is difficult and difficult not only for you. Once in a new environment, your child goes through an adaptation that does not always go smoothly. Not all children are equally successful in acclimatization at school: some have better communication skills, some worse. Together, you should direct your efforts to ensure that your child quickly gets used to the changed circumstances of his life.
When harmony is established between you and the children, housework will not be routine. An older child will be happy to play with the toddler or help you around the house. Don't forget that a good mood is reflected in your appearance as well. Remember to look after and take care of yourself during your maternity leave.
