In the modern world, more and more aggressive children are becoming. The reason for this is the direction in which society is heading: aggressive advertising, relevant films and even aggressive toys. All this negatively affects the child.
In the modern world, more and more aggressive children are becoming. The reason for this is the direction in which society is heading: aggressive advertising, relevant films and even aggressive toys. All this negatively affects the child.
Main reasons
Unfortunately, parents with similar problems in children very rarely turn to specialists. Such antics often get away with, and for this there are various excuses: parents refer to age and even try to pity their child. The worst thing is that seeing such deviations in their child, they recognize this as the norm, referring to the cruel world, and justify these changes.
Aggressiveness is the reason that prevents the child from interacting with his peers and psychologically developing. It interferes with his self-realization and eats away at the still not strong soul.
If we take a textbook on psychology, it says that any emotional state has its own objective reasons. The same applies to aggression. This is a secondary condition. This is a signal that the child is not doing well in his soul. The reasons can be very different: copying the behavior of adults, imitating the characters in films, loneliness or a feeling of helplessness. The child believes that due to his condition he will be able to cope with the aforementioned problems, so there is no unreasonable aggression.
Aggressiveness can border on psychiatric illness. Such children are characterized by insensitivity towards even their loved ones. They lose their capacity for compassion. The next stage is cruelty. If a person, after showing aggression, realizes what he has done and can repent of it, then the cruel one deliberately inflicts not only a mental wound, but also physical suffering.
It is important to be aware of the state of mind of your child and not to allow him the moment of transition from aggressiveness to cruelty. This will be seen in his behavior. For example, he can formally apologize for what he did, without a drop of sympathy. His actions do not cause any emotions in him, and even worse - he is happy. Of course, parents need to stop this. If they themselves cannot cope, then contact a specialist, otherwise such problems in adult life will not lead to anything good.
How should parents behave? At the very moment of aggression, all they can do is only a physical effect aimed at calming the offspring. In order for a child to less often show aggressiveness, one must learn to feel what a person experiences when he is in the zone of his aggression. Let the child anticipate his steps and compare what he has done with himself. And if not everything is neglected, he realizes his mistake. It will be very useful in preschool age to sympathize with animals, suffering people, etc. It is important to set an example through your actions.
If aggressiveness is associated with resentment, then you need to scold him as little as possible. Give him a toy so that he can better take out his aggressiveness on it. Let her learn to express her emotions. This helps to be aware of feelings and see the reason for their aggressiveness, which means it will be easier to cope with it.
If there are such individuals in the team (at school or kindergarten), forbid your children to communicate with them. First, aggressiveness is contagious. Secondly, such a child will sooner or later understand why they are not friends with him, and the situation will definitely change.
Way to fight
One way to combat aggression is through play. Parents need to be careful today. There are many aggressive games and toys on the shelves of stores, from the sight of which even an adult can be frightened. But there are those who have been tested for centuries, capable of instilling goodness and developing a small personality. These are wooden toys. Modern parents no longer even imagine that such exist. Most often they are referred to as souvenirs, whose place is on the bookshelf.
It is impossible to make something aggressive out of wood. Children who spend time with these toys are more inclined towards kindness and compassion. There is such an old game "Fleas". She was born in pre-revolutionary Russia and is not deservedly forgotten. It contributes to the development of a child's eye, dexterity, perseverance and desire to win.
Who didn't spin a wooden top as a child? Now such a toy costs a penny and takes up little space. She was born in Asia and is over two thousand years old. It appeared in Russia at the end of the nineteenth century. And how many manipulations can be done with it! In addition, it develops the muscles of the hands. Now there is a modification of the game - a top on a board. It requires perseverance and patience from the child. Over time, it can reduce the manifestations of anxiety. To drive the top into the "house", you need to be patient, and not everyone can do it.
Say what you like, but a wooden toy is an amazing invention that came to us from our ancestors, and this must be preserved. If you teach a child to her, then she will bring him only joy, and will give adults inspiration.
