Children are different: sociable and modest, mobile and calm, talkative and not so much. Learning is easy for some, for others with a creak, for others it is not at all possible to catch up with classmates. And often it’s not a matter of intelligence. Much depends on the characteristics of the child's character and behavior.
Deviations in the child's behavior involuntarily affect his communication with peers, on his studies and on the formation of character. Children with complex behavior have a difficult time in society. Moreover, many understand this and, first of all, suffer from it themselves. They cannot cope with their problems on their own, therefore the task of an adult is to identify them and help get rid of them.
Aggressive children are more likely to become outcasts among their classmates. Although by their actions, they may be trying to take root in society. It is important to understand the reason for the aggressive behavior here. If these are deviations in mental development, then a specialist consultation is necessary, as well as subsequent work with the child.
If behind the aggression there is only a desire to assert itself, then it is necessary to teach the child to respect others. Not to snatch what he needs from the hands of another, but to ask; not push away from the road, but carefully go around. It should be explained how to communicate, teach how to manage emotions. It is not a bad idea to try for a while to behave with your child the way he treats others. At first it causes surprise, then dissatisfaction, and only in the last place comes understanding and awareness of their mistakes.
It happens that aggressive behavior is nothing more than an example from the family. Therefore, parents often need to look at themselves, whether they are guilty of such behavior. And it is completely unacceptable to physically punish a child for aggression. This generates new outbursts of negativity, exacerbates the situation. In addition, it deprives of the last chance to reach out to the child with the help of words.
Children who lie are not happy with themselves. Initially, lies come as deliverance. That is, the child, fearing for the consequences of what he has done, does not tell the truth. Naturally, this works and begins to be practiced periodically. But after a while, lies are so firmly included in everyday life that the child himself ceases to understand where the truth is and where the fiction is. This is where the real problem lies. It can be solved if the child understands that events may not develop according to his scenario. It is necessary to convey to him that for the truth, whatever it may be, it will not necessarily be punished. Let him understand that his fears are wrong, and his parents are ready to support him in any situation.
A child's shyness can be a real problem for him and for those around him. Here you cannot go ahead, dragging the child into awkward situations for him. You cannot get rid of shyness in this way, but you can aggravate the situation. The only thing is that the child should not be allowed to shirk his duties because of his pathological modesty. He must know that no one will do his job for him.
You can get rid of shyness by finding out why the child is shy, how to make his communication with people more comfortable. You need to find out what worries the child. You need to act carefully, getting rid of shyness step by step.
A child's hysteria is a fairly common problem that makes parents lose their composure. The very essence of a rolling hysteria is to get what you want. Parents are ashamed of the child's behavior and many prefer to fulfill the villain's demand. The goal has been achieved, and the method is being adopted. Until adults stop indulging a hysterical child, this behavior will not stop.
The only sure way is to ignore the tantrum. Generally. It doesn't matter if the child is lying on the floor or in a puddle, banging his head against a wall or just squealing. You can turn around and leave so as not to feed your own irritation. As soon as the child realizes that he will not achieve what he wants by this method, the hysteria will subside. By the way, we are talking here not only about kindergarten children. Adolescents also sin with this behavior.
Fidget children are very insecure. All their fussiness and mobility is aimed at attracting as much attention to themselves as possible. They need to be monitored, encouraged and praised once again. Such children need to be taught to perseverance and the ability to cope with their work on their own. The first successes will inspire the child to further deeds. As soon as confidence is added, the child will outgrow his fussiness.
Brawlers and "non-listeners" do not need a belt, as many think. They also lack self-confidence and self-discipline. Such children need to instill respect for themselves, through the respect of others. It should be conveyed to them that loneliness and uselessness are precisely the lot of those who fight.
At one time or another, every child needs to correct his actions and behavior can always be corrected. The main thing is to notice undesirable actions in time and exclude excessive authoritarianism when correcting them.
