A child should appear in your strong family. This is the greatest happiness in the world, which will never replace anything. All friends and relatives wish you happiness, patience, mutual understanding and a strong family … There are no thoughts at that time that it is mutual understanding and respect that will help you survive the crisis of the birth of your first child.
"Pitfalls" in the relationship after the appearance of the first child
For a woman, having a child sets several important goals: raising him as a worthy member of society and maintaining with her husband the old warm feelings and unquenchable passion.
Both husband and wife have common interests before the baby appears in the tummy. They spend all their free time together, their social, intellectual level is the same. Nowadays, a woman has a good income and can even compete with a man. But with the onset of pregnancy, the active life of a woman is gradually changing, and by the time of childbirth it changes radically. She takes care of the child, the house, and her "working day with the child", unfortunately, is not rubber. She doesn’t have time to put herself in order and prepare the previous five-course dinner for her husband.
The man, on the other hand, understands that he is becoming the only and main breadwinner in the family and plunges headlong into a career. He boldly walks the career ladder and is proud of himself.
Each of them is great in his own way, but, unfortunately, against this background, endless resentments against each other begin. This is life, not a TV show, and you need to be more tolerant.
A man ceases to see in a woman that very beloved beauty, often this image supplants the image of a cleaner, a dishwasher. The woman's personality is completely erased.
It is very difficult to understand each other, because you have practically nothing to talk about.
A little effort and you'll be proud of each other
A man should wait quite a bit, when the hormonal background improves, and the woman becomes adequate. A man needs to help a woman to self-actualize not only in a child and pots, to discover a hobby. And a woman needs to support a man, more often to praise him for his achievements at work. They should listen to each other, talking about the runaway porridge and the unbearable client.
Dad can
First of all, a woman should inspire a man that dad can do anything if he deals with the baby. Dad's confidence will give him more masculine strength, and you will add free time.
Mothers often make mistakes, and then take offense at their husbands for a long time. They prefer to trust their grandmother and themselves, and the man stands aside. Gradually, he forms the opinion that this is how it should be. And when mom asks to spend time with the baby, it becomes very problematic. Since the child does not understand why dad is trying to play with him, and dad does not have enough patience.
He begins to understand that it is much easier and easier to observe from the side. And complete chaos ensues. Try to trust your baby's dad more often. Introduce dad's responsibilities to bathing and feeding. The emotional bond between dad and baby should be strengthened from early childhood.
