While searching for “the one”, sometimes you have to meet with inappropriate men. It seems to be good, kind, caring, but you do not feel romantic feelings in return. Therefore, when he offers to meet and be together, you need to be very tactful so as not to offend the guy with a refusal.
Halftones should not remain, do not give false hope. It is better to cut off once with a firm "no" than to reassure him with a vague "not now." If you haven't figured out your feelings yet, ask for a couple of days to think. But do not delay the wait for a month or two.
Be tactful. There is no need to write down the "why" when refusing, if this list contains only human shortcomings. A young man in love will be crushed by your refusal anyway; there is no need to finish him off with insults.
Speak politely, emphasize that he is a very nice person and will definitely meet the right girl. But you cannot be it because you do not feel reciprocal feelings. You respect and appreciate him as a friend, but there is no "chemistry" between you. Apologize, say you're sorry, and smile at the same time.
As a last resort, you can say that you are in love or are dating another guy. If this is actually not the case, you can ask a friend to play the role of your boyfriend. But if you lie, you risk completely losing the attention of the guys - the news about your couple will spread among the young men. And few guys get to know an unfree girl.
Sometimes such methods do not help, and the young man continues to insist and does not accept refusal. In this case, you can agree to a date, but show yourself not on your best side. For example, if he likes your cheerful disposition, frown, keep quiet, be dramatic. And after the date, tell them that you don't fit together.
What shouldn't be done?
Do not try to make up false deeds so as not to offend your boyfriend by refusing to date. It may turn out that you will meet on the street, or he otherwise learns about your lies, then it will hurt him even more. So just say that you don’t want to go out on a date because you don’t have romantic feelings for him and don’t want to give false hope.
If the guy is offended by the refusal
You can't do without offense. Getting rejected for your feelings, even if polite, always hurts. But you shouldn't blame yourself, because you tried to soften the refusal. You don't need to step over yourself and agree to something against your will so as not to offend the guy. Then you offend the other person - yourself, and this is much more serious.
