Instilling discipline in a child is not an easy task. Many parents fail when faced with the stubbornness of little bullies. Moreover, our upbringing methods are often too emotional and not always correct. Try to heed the advice of experienced psychologists.
Instructions
Step 1
Subsequence
Parental consistency generally plays a very important role in upbringing, and especially in the upbringing of obedience and responsibility in a child. Decide on one form of obedience and one type of punishment for disobedience and strictly adhere to your position. The timing and severity of punishment may vary, but the punishment itself must be clearly defined. Before the little bandit decides to commit another offense, he must be clearly aware of what will await him later.
Step 2
Benevolent firmness
The biggest mistake parents make is being two-faced. We can hug and praise the child, and after a second we have the strength to scream and stamp our feet at the kid's fault. Shouting and screaming is hardly possible to achieve results. You need to be gentle and friendly towards children, but don't cross the line. Always remember that children are good manipulators, and they will definitely try to achieve the cancellation of the conditions you previously set. Remain a kind but firm mentor for your little one.
Step 3
Correct communication
The rules of conduct must be clear to the child. If necessary, write them on a piece of paper and hang them in a prominent place. Always explain to the baby what exactly you expect from him, tell examples from your own life. Try to devote every free minute to communicating with your child - talk, share news, call, take an interest in his life, send SMS, etc. Children cannot read our minds - they need to be taught and guided.
Step 4
Justice
Often we unjustly punish children, and then, realizing this, cancel the punishment. Don't do it - be fair. Stop and think before imposing punishment. By the way, it will not hurt the mischievous person to think about his behavior. And if you do decide to punish, then keep your word. If you are already depriving your child of a computer for a week, then it should be exactly a week.
Step 5
Controlling your ego
Always motivate your actions. Often, when children express doubts about the fairness of our decisions, we are offended, and at this moment our ego takes over the mind. The authoritarian style of communication with the baby comes to the fore. This is wrong because will only cause resentment and anger in the child. But the main goal of upbringing is to teach a child to do the right thing, to make the right decisions, and one cannot do without explanations.
